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Changing a residency order

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30 Aug 12 #352926 by Colin26
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Hi hope somebody could help me, I got residence of my daughter a year ago with my ex having her from Friday night until Monday morning, with her picking her up on Friday and me collecting her Monday before work. But we both agreed to me picking her up on Sunday night every other week as the Monday morning is at 7 o''clock which I think is too early for her( she is 4) she is starting school next week and I think her having to get up at 6 every Monday before school is too early and is not fair on her. But my ex is being selfish and says it has to happen all the time now! How would I go about( and how easy is it) to get it changed?

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30 Aug 12 #352927 by khan72
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Why not let ur ex just drop ur girl off at school directly? Make the contact more 50/50?
As a man who gets only 2 hours a week with his 2 year old daughter, I ask you to consider giving more time to ur child and mother. I know i would resent my father if he kept me away from mum.

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30 Aug 12 #352928 by Colin26
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I''m not keeping her away from her mum she gave her up to me and then tried to get her back weeks after she then didn''t bring her home so I had to go through the courts get an emergency order and then get permanent so she couldn''t do that again! She also lives 40 miles away and has 2 other children from a previous relationship so won''t do that.

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30 Aug 12 #352929 by khan72
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Ah... sorry Colin. I assumed you lived close to the ex. Try talking to her and asking her nicely. If that fails, then you will have to fill a C2 form if the order is less than 12 months old or C100 if the order is more than 12 months... but i could be wrong.

How about offering her more holiday time contact in return for playing ball? This way she wont feel as though she is losing out?

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30 Aug 12 #352932 by Colin26
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It''s ok, yeah tried the talking part and I may aswell bang my head against a brick wall haha and I already let her have time in the holidays too so don''t think I have any option but to do it properly cos even if she does agree she''ll probably change her mind again in a few months anyway haha thanks for the help

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30 Aug 12 #352933 by khan72
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please please please try to keep it out of the courts. take all other avenues first and keep written records.

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30 Aug 12 #352934 by Colin26
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Don''t have much choice mate tried everything else I wish I didn''t have to go through it all again just because she is being selfish but don''t know what else to do

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