Weekend Away

Is it possible that he is using the bridesmaids'' fitting session as an opportunity to have a family get together/party for the coming birthday?

he would be changing his plans for our daughter, not for me.

Chezziebell wrote:

he would be changing his plans for our daughter, not for me.

This may be the case but he has made plans for your daughter on his weekend. Like i said in a previous post i''m sure your daughter would love to go center parcs what kid wouldn''t. But i''m just as sure sheel love to spend time with her Dad also.

It''s unfortunate that hes not willing to compromise but that''s his choice however unreasonable it is.

IMO youll be making the situation far worse by just going ahead with it. That definately wouldnt be in your daughters best interests.

Yes I appreciate that.

Always a very difficult situation.

I have had to refuse to be flexible to a degree with my ex now as he would change days so he could play golf, then forget and turn up on the wrong day and cause all kinds of problems and upset for our daughter. Now we only make changes if it is something that benefits our child ie: friends parties, family things etc.

However, my ex doesnt have her overnight and see''s her every weekend for a day at a time so even if we cant change days and he misses a weekend he doesnt go long without seeing her.

Have you tried offering additional contact either side of the weekend? Couple of hours the day before you go, couple of hours after? It does seem a shame that your daughter will miss out. My ex hasnt had a problems with holidays before now so not something i have encountered but i can imagine your frustration.

Thank you. Yes possibly a good idea re either side of the weekend but unless anything changes drastically I think she will have to just miss out on coming with us.

She has just had 2 holidays abroad over the summer. So I am sure she will be OK. But it''s a shame for her as she wants to go.

I also think his arrangements could be moved so easily, with some will on his part.

As I have said I am really flexible with him, or I was.

Good idea by JSL

I''m pretty sure he could move them and is just being awkward but unfortunately quite often 1 will do there best to compromise and the other doesen''t.

Is this the first time he refused? or is it a common thing?

Maybe next time when he asks and you say no heel realise that he was being unreasonable.