Being unreasonable to not let child miss school?

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Often, when a poster has a long and complicated history on certain issues, it is beneficial to read back through some older posts by that poster, and gain an understanding of that history.

Having the dog put down is a valid reason to miss a day in my opinion haapyagain - our daughter would be devastated if our dog died. It is certainly a far more valid reason than having a day off so her father can have an extra night drinking (he is planning to leave before lunch on the Monday so she would be missing school simply to drive home.)

The school have said yes to his request. I think it''s ridiculous seeing as the form says they will only allow authorised absenses in line with their attendance policy which says only in exceptional circumstances. My daughter cried (for the first time in months) about it and now doesn''t want to go on the trip at all. I said he could set off at bedtime on the Sunday so she sleeps in the car then is transferred into bed when she gets here; he said no. I don''t know what to do.

Hi Jenna,

I think one point which I don''t beleive has been mentioned yet is that you stated it is your contact time!!!

I don''t feel that either parent should arrange something in the others contact time.

Survive

Yes, the Monday is and the weekend away is during my weekend too so I feel I have already been fair by letting him have my weekend despite him not being willing to swap one of his.

I have read through this and other threads to try and understand. I say this because I really don''t understand why not, especially at this age.

I have had to let many things go to either do what is best for my children or just to avoid them being affected.

It seems that it is a reasonable request of your daughter''s father as it seems most likely (having read other posts) that he is worried about his relationship with his daughter and wants to make an effort to improve it. So it looks a great idea to me, although the timing isn''t perfect.

When I had my contact hearing, I picked up some leaflets about how to minimise the effect of the children. Many good points, one of the key point was that both parents must be supportive of contact with the other parent. Our children shouldn''t feel bad about contact with the other parent.

Children pick up the bad feelings very easily, and act a certain role with each parent.

I am not saying that you should let yourself be bullied...but I would let one day go, and even fake a smile...for your daughter''s sake.

As time passes, being cooperative with each other can only be good for the child. You can support each other, and create a better, more supporting and loving environment for her.

I won''t comment on some of the other posts, other than to remind them that this is about the child!