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Being unreasonable to not let child miss school?

  • Jenna29
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14 Sep 12 #355843 by Jenna29
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I''ve let the school know we''re seperated and that it isn''t a joint request so will have to wait and see what they say. Hopefully they''ll say no as daughter doesn''t want to go and has her heart set on a 100% attendance certificate at the end of term.
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14 Sep 12 #355908 by Chained
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I would like to know how disastrous it would be for the child to miss one day of school at this age. What if she fell ill and had to be absent for a week? Would this mean she will be illiterate for the rest of her life without a chance for a good job?

And what if the school says yes, go on a holiday with your dad and miss Monday, it''s ok. What then?
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14 Sep 12 #355915 by .Charles
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Being too ill to attend and breaking the law by taking your child out of school are two different things entirely.

If the school finds itself conflicted between two parents I would guess that they will revert to the legal position that the child remain in school.

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14 Sep 12 #355923 by BoysMum
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I know how important it is from the child''s perspective to receive a certificate for 100% attendance. In my children''s school, it is a very important assembly where the Attendance Certificates are given, and the Headteacher makes a speech to the children on the importance of attendance.

Chained - No of course it doesn''t mean the child will be illiterate or wont be able to get a good job. Receiving an Attendance Certificate is something which every child hopes to receive. Schools these days place a lot of emphasis on Attendance Levels, and therefore reward pupils for 100% Attendance.
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14 Sep 12 #355926 by MrsMathsisfun
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I really dont think this is anything to do with a 100% attendance, this is about you not wanting your daughter spending a long weekend with her dad.

You want to come across all reasonable and appear not to be stopping contact so attempt to provide ''valid'' reasons why the weekend cant go ahead.

The school will probably allow this days holiday if your child doesnt have a record of non attendance. So if the school says yes what do you intend to do then?
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14 Sep 12 #355932 by rubytuesday
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I dont think Jenna is being unreasonable in not wanting her child - who has just started primary school and therefore this term is very important in terms of settling into a school routine, and forging friendships etc - to miss a day off school because the father has booked a long weekend. Schools provide children (and parents) with ample holidays and enough notice to book long weekends/holidays in the appropriate holiday-time.

The valid reason why this long weekend is not appropriate is simply because the child has school on the Monday.

If there is an unauthorised absence from school, the LA will most likely fine EACH parent to the sum of £50 each. Why should Jenna leave herself open to paying such a fine because her ex won''t book holidays during holiday time?
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14 Sep 12 #355934 by Yummy_Mummy
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Precisely. If the school don''t see any problem, then would you be obliged to say yes.

The problem is if you don''t say yes, will it look as if you are being awkward.

I personally would want my children to attend school unless they are taken ill or for special leave.

Regular attendance is not only good for the school as figures they produce for LEA but it gives children focus.

So early in the term, they need to re-establish routine, make friends, after school clubs, homework...

Children can be confused. There are certain things they can do with mum that they can''t with dad and vice versa. Contesting parents can end up scoring points so I think School is even more important, it helps with consistency.
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