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07 Sep 12 #354487 by Mouse33
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Hi all. Not sure if I''m in the right bit of the forum but I need advice and I''m sure someone out there has experience of this.
How serious do social services concern need to be before they do something about it ?
They''re involved and are prepping section 7 Report snd dm just wondering whether it will make a difference to the judge.
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07 Sep 12 #354488 by DrDaddy
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IMO no you are not over reacting. Going round there and losing your temper probably isn''t a great way to deal with it, though.

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07 Sep 12 #354489 by mumtoboys
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this is, unfortunately, one of those put up and shut up situations that many of us have to put up with, one way or another. We are told that we have to trust our exs and make the assumption that they have their children''s best interests at heart and wouldn''t knowingly put them in any danger. However, your situation may be slightly different to the norm in that Social Services are already involved - I guess much will depend why they are involved and whether or not the new partner is considered in any way to be a risk to the children.

Assuming he''s a normal guy with no kind of record, there will be nothing you can do about it. You certainly shouldn''t jepoardise your own residence case by going round and causing a scene which the children may witness.

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07 Sep 12 #354490 by pixy
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It might be entirely innocent. But let''s face it, definitely dodgy.

What sort of relationship do you have with the ex? Asking her and talking about the dangers is going to inflame things unless you get on incredibly well, which if you already have concerns seems unlikely.

Why not ring the social worker and talk it through with him/her?

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07 Sep 12 #354491 by Mouse33
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Thx for the quick advice people. I hastily edited my post in fear of the STBX identifying me. Think I''ll give a chat with the social worker a try.

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