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13 Sep 12 #355630 by ohwhattodo
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My court order states in one of the sections that additional access to be arranged between mother and father. She still refuses anything I ask for even two hours extra (travelling time from a family party). How can I get any extra with out more court costs. She seems to think she has the authority to give a yes or no and so far it''s always been no. Court order been in place a few years now and I am just getting sick and tired of kids missing out when they have to go back on a certain day at a certain time.

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13 Sep 12 #355631 by zonked
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A couple of suggestions...

Perhaps write a soft letter asking that you both discuss the issue....you understand her concerns...want to give her peace of mind...time to move forward and be the parents that x (son) deserves etc. Am sure you could find better words. Family mediation service do good work, you could ask that they help you both draw up a parenting plan - they do charge, think about £50 a session.

The alternative is go back to court. C100 form, asking to vary the exisiting contact order. You could perhaps represent yourself to keep costs down.

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13 Sep 12 #355633 by ohwhattodo
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I have tried so hard to be ''nice'', ''asking in the right way'' ''offering her the children on my time'' so they don''t miss out with things I know she is doing (sisters wedding) but to no avail I get the silent treatment or an emphatic NO! She sees the court order as being the most I should get. She doesn''t see that this is about the kids. Almost 7 years down the line you would think she would be approachable but she still hates me enough to spite the kids.

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13 Sep 12 #355634 by zonked
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Put the rights and wrongs of things to one side, the issue is wether you can engage the ex in a process that will reach agreement or not. Sometimes, people respond better to third parties, maybe the family mediation service could reach her on a level that you can''t? It seems a sensible step. If you feel that avenue is hopeless then the only recourse you have is to seek to change the contact order,

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