NRP disrupting child at school

Mathisfun - I do act happily around him now. He was violent/aggressive/abusive and I used to feel sick at the thought of seeing him but now I''m past that and my daughter knows I''m fine with him. He makes no end of demands and they are often just to test what I''ll say! Jslgb - I wasn''t aware a RP could seek a contact order on behalf of a NRP? I have asked them to let me know if he arrives. He tells her he''ll arrive to take her and tells me he''ll exercise his right to go and see her when he wants to.

Oh yes, oh course!

Can you not casually ask her to mention when he''s coming so you can check? If you play it up to her as fun or exciting then she wont think its wrong to tell you if he has told her not to!

That''s the thing - he keeps telling her he''s coming, causing her to be upset but rarely actually turns up. She''s starting to realise he doesn''t always mean what he says, it''s just frustrating that he does it.

If your happy around your ex and you want your daughter to have contact with him. Why does she get upset when dad suggests he might collect her from school?

Because she doesn''t enjoy contact as it is, let alone contact that he tells her will consist of him taking her without my knowledge.

To say that a six year old does not enjoy contact with her father is not scoring points for either parent, sorry.

If he is just using her to get to you then by all means get a court order on him with defined dates and times. This way everyone would get into a routine.

She''s just turned five. I would like everything defined but I can''t get a court order as I am the RP.