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Things gone from bad to worse!!!

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16 Sep 12 #356195 by sleepybird
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I have posted recently under ''reasonable excuse to stop contact''so please read if you are viewing for the first time.

My partner has spent 3 hours today with his son as the ex offered ''as a gesture of goodwill'' as she puts it, forgetting the fact that she breached the contact order last week.

He spent the whole time in her home with her and her new husband and son (very uncomfortable). He asked son if he''d like to go out to which son said no.

My partner managed to have a chat with son and ex together. He asked son if he feels that mummy wont love him anymore if he comes to stay at his house (as son said on the phone a few days ago) Son said yes. he also asked him if he feels that mummy gets upset if he goes with daddy, son said yes, yet still ex will not admit theres any problem. She sat and heard it from her son.

My partner suggested that son may need to
see a councillor to be able to talk openly without fear of upsetting anyone. Ex refuses and says he can speak to her if he needs to.

My partner asked about contact that is due next weekend and got the same reply, if son says he doesnt want to go then he wont be going.

Does she not see what shes doing and that the longer this goes on, the worse it will be for son. Its just so upsetting.

We are about to send of a C79 application but was wondering how to go about getting this case seen as an emergency or do we need to apply for an interim order?

Not sure how this all works, from the sounds of things son wont be coming to stay as usual for a considerable amount of time if we dont do somthing now and this cant be good for him.

Ex is so stubborn i wouldnt be surprised if she stood firm in court also and told a judge that if son doesnt want to go, then he wont be.

Son is 4 years old and we are worried for him and the effect all of this will have on him.

any advice welcome

Thank you

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16 Sep 12 #356204 by Chained
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Hello sleepybird.

Unfortunately, I have no legal advise to give on the matter, but I see that after a whole week still things remain the same and your partner has taken no action.

Mondays, though are perfect for sending on C79s, (they are magical regarding C79s ;-)) and I would recommend he uses upcoming Monday to do that.

Do not worry about the ex. She might as well stand in front of the Judge and claim the four year old will run for President so he needs to stay at home with her to get prepared for the upcoming elections. Whether or not the Judge will see this as a reasonable excuse for the four year old to miss contact with his father it is not up the ex to decide.

Hang in there and do not waste time!!

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16 Sep 12 #356219 by Joe2020
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Don''t take any crap.
Put your C79 form in tomorrow.
Let the mother know you are doing this as an incentive for her not to break the contact order again.
Be firm with her and do not let her dictate.

The little boy has a right to spend time with his dad so remember you are fighting for his rights as well as for the fathers.

Show this woman you mean business and change your tone to a tough one and show you are not to be messed with.
End of !

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17 Sep 12 #356410 by sleepybird
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Thanks for the replies, sent the c79 today. Hopefully the court date wont be too long away now.

Thanks again

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17 Sep 12 #356412 by Chained
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I was keeping an eye for you.

Well done! :-)

Hang in there now, it won''t be long!

Keep Calm and Drink Red Bull... :-P

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17 Sep 12 #356420 by sleepybird
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Or wine!!! Lol

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17 Sep 12 #356430 by Chained
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I know! Wine is mandatory!! But while my partner''s case was still ongoing I found it very hard to drink wine. For some weird reason I didn''t want to feel numb, although a part of me was longing to get totally trashed to the point of calling sick next day at work. Didn''t happen... :-(

On the contrary, the sleepless nights were treated effectively with Red Bull the next day. The month before the Court Date, I was strictly living on cereal, Red Bull and cigarettes. I am now trying to cut down on the Red Bull and the cigs (the cereal stays!). ;-)

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