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16 Sep 12 #356209 by jslgb
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My daughter returned home from visiting her dad today and told me she''d spent a large part of the day in her sisters bedroom watching tv with OW''s son and he had been asking to hold her hand and hug her a lot. My daughter is 6 and OW''s son is 8. In the past the son has been nasty towards my daughter and physically hurt her more than once. My daughter often tells me that he causes a lot of trouble and is always being told off and is nasty. Now I admit I might be jumping to conclusions based on things I have experienced but I really don''t feel it is appropriate for an 8 year old boy to be sat on a bed with a 6 year old girl watching barbie dvd''s and asking to hold her hand and hug her. Especially as they don''t seem to have got on prior to this and my daughter was very vocal in her dislike of him.

Like I said. I may be jumping to conclusions and I know stbxh would get defensive the minute I mention it so I don''t know what to do. Obviously stbxh knows this child but I do not.

Any (none judgemental) words of wisdom?

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16 Sep 12 #356212 by sexysadie
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I would say it''s absolutely fine, and certainly not inappropriate. Maybe he has been encouraged to be nice to her and this is his way of doing it. I would leave it be and see how things develop - if it really makes her uncomfortable then you may have to intervene, but if she feels free to refuse his hugs then don''t worry about it. And even if she''s not comfortable I would let things ride and see if they settle down first.

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16 Sep 12 #356240 by ffc1991
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If your daughter hasn''t make complaints or aired concerns about the cuddling or anything then personally i''d leave it and say it''s perfectly fine. Obviously if your daughter doesen''t like this it''s another matter but going by your post that isn''t the case :)

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16 Sep 12 #356241 by jslgb
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Thanks for the input guys!

I think i probably am jumping the gun but my daughter is a very naive 6 and after hearing all about how naughty this boy is and how much trouble he gets into i just immediately thought the worst! And with things strained between stbxh and me i knew there was no point going to him with my concerns! Ironic really because in any other situation he would be the first one to comment!!

My daughter doesnt see any problems with the attention at present. Will just ride it out and see how it goes!

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