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17 Sep 12 #356278 by hawaythelads
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She''s prioritising her social life then.
You can have every Friday and Saturday so I can go out with the gals or whatever fella I happen to pull that weekend.:blink:
Good Luck
HRH xx

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17 Sep 12 #356293 by Fiona
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There is no one arrangement that suits all families and above all the arrangements need to be practical and work for everyone concerned. Divorce changes things and sometimes a rethink is required. For example if a stay at home parent during the marriage needs to get a job and it isn''t unreasonable for the other parent to take on more of the child care.

However no parent can be forced to care for children and if neither parent wants them children go into care or are pushed about from pillar to post. If you can''t reach a compromise with your wife only you can decide where your priorities lie.

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17 Sep 12 #356364 by AwaitingDivorce
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If this is all sorted through mediation - can the plans be changed at a later date, i.e if get a new job, have to move somewhere different...

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17 Sep 12 #356379 by ffc1991
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mediation isn''t legally binding like a contact order. You can agree stuff at mediation and either you or your EX could go against it the very next day.

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24 Sep 12 #357608 by AwaitingDivorce
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Does what we agree in mediation then go back to the soliciotr to make legal?

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24 Sep 12 #357656 by Elphie
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What you agree regarding finance will go back to your solisitor. Hopefully, they will go ok and write up a Consent Order. The consent order will go to court and a judge will sign it to make that part legally binding. However, sometimes your solisitor will tell you you are getting a bad deal so back to mediation you go to renegotiate.

However, children aree different, that never becomes legally binding. A form is sent to court to show you have considered children''s needs, but what is agreed in mediation about children never becomes legally binding, either party can change their minds at any point, a day later, a year later, ten years later....

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25 Sep 12 #357814 by AwaitingDivorce
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Thanks for that - as i see things changing with regards to the children over time

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