3 Children

You''ll want a block of time in the holidays so that you can take them away.

If you do alternate weekends couldyou collect them from school/wherever on Friday night and return them to school/wherever on Monday morning?

If you specify father''s day, then she can specify mother''s day (sensible to do this).

Birthdays and Christmas more tricky - you could do alternate years (when you don''t have them on the actual day, you have a second one at yours) or you could split the day (which works for some people but always seems a lot of faff to me).

txtd her n rang this morning to sort when i have the kids ltr - she is now refusing to answer calls or reply to txts even tho it is only about the kids

She still wont take call sor txts - im worried about the kids - what do i do?

Awaiting divorce

I''ve read this thread with my mouth open in shock. No matter what happened between you and the ex surely you want your children to know and love you? I have been on the opposite end my daughter will receive a letter at 18 to tell her why her Dad in his view hasn''t called her, spent time with her, been her Dad etc. And it''s becuase he''s punishing me for my actual or percieved faults not that of my daughter. Please think again, I would do anything for my daughter to know her Dad!

I work full time, more than 9 -5 and we had a shared care agreement (for 7 weeks until he recinded it). Nights out, time to yourself, doesn''t exist when you have children that is the small sacrifice you make for the most rewarding thing you can ever have, the love of your child.

Please, please, please rethink this!

I am going to see my kids - at mediation tomoz to sort. Had all three of them today

That''s fantastic news....

Its hard going when you separate, especially when matters around the children aren''t resolved, and your ex does seem to be playing a few games, only time will tell what they are...

Just keep your mind focused on your relationship with your kiddies, let them know how much daddy loves them, don''t involve them in any of the battles, just love them and be there for them, and hopefully things will work out for you.

You seem to have been through the mill, and the emotions and feelings will have been a roller coaster - be kind to yourself, and allow yourself time and space..

Take Care