Spiteful ex not thinking of kids - tell CAFCASS?

Hi All

I will be having my quick call with CAFCASS soon and one of the things I need to across is how ex uses the current order to control things, often to the detriment of the kids.

I have an example:

I had a three night caravan holiday booked and paid for long before we went to court in March. I tried for months to see if it was ok for the children to go and eventually last Friday she sent a text to agree to the three nights, as long as she had the following weekend.

On the Saturday I then told the kids the holiday was definitely on and they were excited about it as well as us getting three nights in a row again.

On the Saturday night ex then sent another text to say she has decided it is better to stick to the court order and have them both back for 4pm on Sat.

I can''t break the order so I have to accept that they can''t go. This is obviously just nasty and spiteful and she has had no regard for them. How cruel!

Should I just print it off and show CAFCASS so they can see how bad things are?

This is just one example of many.

Many thanks from Mark

Is it your first Directions hearing?

When were/are you due to go away?

Well we had a Directions Hearing in Jan but this is the first Directions Hearing as part of the new application.

We were meant to go away this Friday.

If you have a text from ex saying its okay to take the kids for the weekend, then do so.

Hi - But she has sent one after saying - ''As we never clarified, etc, just stick tot he Court Order and I wnat them back at x time on Sat''.

I''ll be breaking the order...

If the Court Order is defined then I am sorry to say you both have to stick to it. Although I understand the reasons you wanted an extra day and it will be sad for the kids to miss out on a holiday, if you want the order to be enforceable you cannot deviate from it, whether the ex says yes or no.

I might be wrong but telling CAFCASS you wanted to break the order and you expected your ex to agree with it, might not be a plus.

If the order is not defined ignore all the above.