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Urgent - Social Services - her next spiteful step

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20 Sep 12 #356989 by Mark100
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Hi All

Today I received a phone call from social services. Yesterday my ex reported to them that I ''physically hurt'' my children and asked it to be investigated. They went into school and after my son was removed from class, interviewed him and asked about what she had said. He said it was all untrue and when the social worker spoke to me she said when he got going he said he was very happy at home with me and loved football, going on the bikes, how I play with him.

Social serrvices said they have closed the file as there was no truth or risk. Ex then rang school and told them she was picking them up anyway as she wants to ''protect'' them. The Head told her that there was a court order in place and dad should pick them up at 3.30. She responded that she was coming early and collecting them before the court order kicked in.

I spoke with the Head who said that when mum arrived he took her aside and explained that social services and school strongly recommend not removing the kids from school and that they should be with dad. She should not be causing this disruption. She did it anyway.

She has texted me to say she is doing it again tomorrow and I have responded to say socuial services, school and CAFCASS all disagree with her actions.

After 6 months of me asking she also wants to meet to discuss the situation. I have said ok.

We are in court next week. I am devastated as to what she is doing to the kids and I dread what new lows she can go to. Any advice.

The school is doing letter to say she acted against theirs and social services recommendations.

What are the chances of her being stopped. She does keep telling the kids I hurt them but I have evidence to the contrary as she usually says I don''t discipline them hard enough. 6 months ago at court her statement ended with ''the kids love him, he loves the kids, he is a good dad''.

Nothing has gone mine or the kids way yet...what are the chances of the Judge taking proper action next week and what should I do tomorrow?
Try to pick them up?

I could not get any help today but was sent in circles...police....social services....

School tried.
CAFCASS have booked me for an hour tomorrow.

Thanks all......

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20 Sep 12 #356991 by ffc1991
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Probably not what you want to hear but I''ll just ride the next week the best you can. If your kids aren''t in any danger which it seems they aren''t just your ex trying her best to stop you seeing them, then just wait for the hearing next week. Your EX really isn''t going to have a leg to stand on after this last stunt. It''s clearly just 1 last desperation attempt to get her own way. It''s so sad to see but she really has destroyed her entire argument. She''s now lost the school''s support and CAFCASS''s 2 pretty huge influences of any action taken in court.

Also take note that you son has said all those positive things. if your EX is trying to poison him or turn him against you it quite clearly isn''t working !!!

What type of hearing do you have next week?

All the best :)

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20 Sep 12 #356992 by Mark100
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It''s just Directions for:

Sorting the next school.
Shared Residence.
A liost of specific dates such as birthdays as she spoils them.

I guess we will now be telling the Judge she is breaking the order as well, against the advice of the authorities.

Thanks for the support. A fully grown man who broke down in front of the Headmaster!:(

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20 Sep 12 #356993 by ffc1991
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Well your EX really isn''t doing herself any favors really is she? CAFCASS ultimately give the reccomendation for shared residence or not and she''s just gone and put 2 fingers up to them. The school will probably now fully support you and be on your side which is obvs handy :P.

Are you a LIP or represented? Would be times like this where I wish I could be represented as barristers must have a field day with compulsive liars.

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20 Sep 12 #356994 by Mark100
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I have a solicitor representing me. I hope you are right. Everybody said things like this at the start of the year and the liar got her own way then!

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20 Sep 12 #356995 by ffc1991
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Tbf your going to have a letter from the school, her going against an oreder and ignoring CAFCASS, making lies to Social services and then going against them. Ofcourse it must be unpleasant as your son is suffering from not seeing you. But smile a little inside that these are last ditch desperation attempts of somebody who knows they are losing.

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20 Sep 12 #356997 by Mark100
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Put like that yes I can smile a bit. Tbh my son and daughter should not be removed from school early as that is just disrupting that element of their lives as well. The Headmaster seemed very annoyed that she went against his steer today.

I hope they grant the shared residence to send the message that I am an equal and it isn''t just up to her.

Thanks for responding....it''s nerve wracking but logic says she can''t surly get away with it again.

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