After 3 years of fighting to get access to my children, a year ago my ex agreed to give me contact if I was supervisored...at the time I just accepted that cause it meant I got to see my children...today my ex sends me a text saying she will remove the supervision and give me normal contact with my children, IF and only IF I get the court order changed at my expense...I cant afford a solicitor, and legal aid was refused...can any one tell me please what I have to do to get this order changed at court....I will have to do it all myself...Thanks
Keep the text message on your phone. Do not delete it. Try to make sure you get as much of this agreement in writing.
Fill out the form.. then talk to ex about when contact can be agreed. Forsetti will be able to point you in the direction of a good book showing a template contact order. Make sure you agree somehting in advance. Before the hearing, meet each other. Agree the final bit and just get the court to rubber stamp it.
Be very specific and stick to it.
When I was going through difficult times with horrible texts from my stbx I had a mobile phone account with 02. They offered a service and I expect they still do whereby you could send your texts up to a sort of storage account so you could print them all out and it showed which phone they came from.
I do not have a mobile anymore due to finance but you could check it out as it is an easy way to produce evidence to court if the facility is still available. I do think other service providers had the same facility (that was a year or two ago) but it might be worth investigating.
At the time I was with 02 you did not need to be an account holder with them to use the service and it was free.
I think the service Soulruler is talking about is/was called Bluebook.
If you have a smartphone there are a number of apps that will automatically back up your text messages. I use Android and I use SMS Backup+ which backs up all of my text messages to my google email address. It''s free.
I''m sure that there are similar apps for iPhones and Blackberrys.