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Am I being unreasonable ???

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25 Sep 12 #357831 by chocaholicdeb
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My husband used to live up a few minutes up the road and when he saw the children I would sometimes pick them up or drop them off.

He has now moved further away, about a 30 minute drive. He has asked me to pick the children up or drop them off at his new address but I have said no as it is much further away. I have said that when he see them (once in the week and every other weekend) he should have the responsibility of picking them up and dropping them off.

He drives and has his own transport.

He says I am being unreasonalbe in asking him to do this.

What do you think?

Am I being unreasonable?

What are your arrangements for picking up/dropping off?

Please give me you opinion.

Thanks.

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25 Sep 12 #357833 by rubytuesday
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Do you have a car?

If so, I think it would be more reasonable if you suggested that you share the travelling so that burden isn''t solely placed upon one parent all the time. It''s the responsibility of both parents to ensure contact is facilitated, not just one, or the parent who have moved away. If you don''t drive, however, and public transport is a hassle then perhaps you could offer to share the petrol costs?

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25 Sep 12 #357834 by WhiteRose
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Hi,

What is fairly common is that each party do a leg of the journey for Contact.

WR

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25 Sep 12 #357841 by chocaholicdeb
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Yes I do have a car.

Maybe I am being unreasonable then. I''m probably just annoyed as until a week a go he was still living in the FMH just up the road but now seems to have moved to live with his new partner. Have to get something sorted.

Thanks for your advice.

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25 Sep 12 #357845 by WhiteRose
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Ahhhh yes, emotions are still raw and it is difficult separating these esp if it looks like he''s waltzing off to have a new life with another woman.

However contact is for the benefit of the kids and they will appreciate your positive attitude in the long run if you facilitate contact and ensure handovers are not hostile.

Your kids deserve quality contact with both of you and some members here have had all sorts of silly shenanigans that turn into tit-for-tat games purely to scupper contact plans, who suffers in this? The kids. Always. Every time.

Take care

WR x

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