A well respected, award winning social enterprise
Volunteer run - Government and charity funded
We help 50,000 people a year through divorce

01202 805020

Lines open: Monday to Friday 9am-5pm
Call for FREE expert advice & service info

contact travel

  • hattiedaw
  • hattiedaw's Avatar Posted by
  • Elite Member
  • Elite Member
More
26 Sep 12 #357925 by hattiedaw
Topic started by hattiedaw
NRP moved 3-4 hour drive away.
RP stayed put.
NRP expects RP to drop children off for contact!
RP says no as does not own a car (has the use of a car for school runs etc but doesnt own it), has other smaller children to look after and lives on much lower income and has much poorer lifestyle that NRP so said they cant afford the petrol money.
Realistically what would a court say if NRP persues threat to "take to court so RP has to do half the journeys".
RP cannot afford it, neither in a monetary way nor the time it would take.
Thanks.

  • hattiedaw
  • hattiedaw's Avatar Posted by
  • Elite Member
  • Elite Member
More
26 Sep 12 #357926 by hattiedaw
Reply from hattiedaw
Also,, the car that the RP has the use of is not reliable.

  • rubytuesday
  • rubytuesday's Avatar
  • Moderator
  • Moderator
More
26 Sep 12 #357928 by rubytuesday
Reply from rubytuesday
Who owns the car? And if it is unreliable, why is she using it to transport children to school?

Can the father of the younger children not look after those children for a couple of hours while she shares the travel with the other father?

A court could potentially order the parents to share the travel, either one leg of the journey each, or meet at a halfway point for both drop-offs. It is the responsibility of both parents to ensure contact is facilitated, not just one.

  • Sjw19850141
  • Sjw19850141's Avatar
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
More
26 Sep 12 #358029 by Sjw19850141
Reply from Sjw19850141
Know the feeling, my ex moved nearly 400 miles away and has put himself on the dole, just know he''s gonna try to force me to do the travel, I can''t drive and can''t afford all the costs of travel, don''t know what to do? X

  • sleepybird
  • sleepybird's Avatar
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
More
26 Sep 12 #358030 by sleepybird
Reply from sleepybird
The answer is that yes the court could order you to share the driving.

My partner asked for this in court and although RP gave lots of excuses as to why she couldnt help with travelling (her car is unreliable being one of them) it was still decided that they share the driving.

She said in court that she cant afford the fuel costs and so my partner pays her £5 a week to help towards fuel costs as ordered by the court.

RP lives hour and half drive away around 60 miles.

  • hattiedaw
  • hattiedaw's Avatar Posted by
  • Elite Member
  • Elite Member
More
29 Sep 12 #358460 by hattiedaw
Reply from hattiedaw
How unfair!
Ruby, car is owned by a family member who also uses it, they use it mostly at weekends which is why RP is able to use it during the week for school runs.
Unreliable to the point of sometimes doesnt start, not UNSAFE which I think is what you''re implying.
RP really cant afford the extra petrol money, there simply is nothing left in the pot so she would have to walk the children to a half way meeting point (how long would that take on foot if it would be 1.5 hours drive?).
The father of the other children works every day to provide for the children of the family as there is no CM being paid by the NRP in this case (self employed, finances tied up very well!).

  • disneybunny
  • disneybunny's Avatar
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
More
29 Sep 12 #358462 by disneybunny
Reply from disneybunny
One of the many reasons why contact never took place between ex and our children is him expecting me to sort out all the pick ups and drop offs. From my viewpoint if the nrp wanted contact they would walk barefoot over broken glass if it wasthe only way to get there. I will never understand the reasoning of making the rp do the running around, wedo everything else and tbh the money I have is to feed, clothe and keep a roof over their heads. I pay for everything on my own so why should I pay for his access as well.
Most people I have spoken to over the last couple of years find ithardto believe what nrps get away with. No CM, half the house and they still have the cheek to ask for help with transporting the children. Funny how my ex can afford to take his gf son out for a McDonald''s and buy her tat but not manage to drive a few miles to see his own kids.

Moderators: wikivorce teamrubytuesdaydukeyhadenoughnowTetsSheziLinda SheridanForsetiMitchumWhiteRoseLostboy67WYSPECIALBubblegum11