Ok so apologies in advance
My 6 year old has not seen his dad in 2 and a half years properly, now this is not because I am a horrible spiteful ex but because he decided to strike my beautiful boy with a computer mouse both on his back ad in his "winky" as he puts it and he does not wish this to happen again, this episode came after many incidents involving non feeding, dangerous chemicals, polystyrene up his nose and general other little welfare issues that I didn''t believe we''re enough to stop contact but enough to bring up with him, now the latest and greatest idea is that the psychologist should bring him a gift from his dad which I had no problem with... Wee man did, he''s afraid that she''ll " make me see the bad man" ( that''s what he''s taken to calling his dad despite me constantly telling him not to, I even tried getting him to call him by his Christian name if that would help but to no avail) but anyway she came with the gift and after much badgering he opened it, and asked "what will happen if I keep the present?" To which the psychologist and myself replied that it was just a gift, now later in the day I found it in his bin when he started to talk about how he didn''t want to see "the bad man" and I was to put this gift in the bin ( I didn''t I just put it in the cupboard) now she wanted to return with a second gift and I told her what had happened and now she says I''m undermining what she''s trying to do, I wasn''t I was just telling her what happened, I have tried everything I can think of to get him to see his dad from talking about happier times, trying to arrange visits to places he likes, talking to him about how his dad feels without him and I even asked if he would like to send a birthday card none of it worked, and I don''t even have a number to call his dad cos he won''t give me it despite me asking in court, and just to add to it his dad has moved nearly 400 miles away so I''m at a total loss how can I fix this??
Thanks for bearing with me
Sj