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29 Sep 12 #358502 by humdrum
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Court order says father must take children to activities arranged for them during the time they are with their father, mother must consult father over any change in these arrangements that impacts on his time.

Activity that father took child to on his alternate weeks mid-week contact has changed by 15 minutes this term. He says that because he was not consulted on this change, he will no longer take child to this activity. This is the only day that this activity is available and attending on alternate weeks is going to hinder child''s progress, as well as waste my money, so if he won''t take her she will probably have to give this up.

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29 Sep 12 #358511 by DrDaddy
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Was this change made by you, or by the organisers of the activity?

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29 Sep 12 #358513 by humdrum
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By the organisers of the activity - timetable changes.

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30 Sep 12 #358526 by DrDaddy
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Well in that case, it isn''t really your fault, is it. On the other hand, that 15 mins may make it practically difficult for him.

I''m confused about the order - it seems to be saying that you can arrange activities in his time, and he has to comply with that? That seems a bit unfair - I would have thought you''d each have the choice during your own time.

I don''t think you can reasonably force him if he won''t do it, though.

When you say going alternate weeks will "hinder their progress" - does that really matter? Are they doing it for progress or for enjoyment? Can you not ask the organisers if you can go biweekly?

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30 Sep 12 #358545 by khan72
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The father has parental responsibility? If so, he needs to remind the court of this fact. Does the court order the father when to feed the children? I have no idea why a court would interfere... But it seems like a lot of nannying. Judge needs to a few case law quotes putting their way. (Quotes where judges leave the day to day decision making to the parent)

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30 Sep 12 #358550 by Sjw19850141
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Whilst I think that dad should be free to choose what he wants to do in his time if that''s what the order says then I think he''s being pedantic about 15 mins unless he can really prove that it''s a hardship and detrimental to his relationship and time with the wee one x

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30 Sep 12 #358554 by stepper
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I think it is best for the children if the two parents can work together and co-operate with each other for the benefit of the children.

In my opinion, Judges should define Orders by contact arrangements only and leave how the time is spent to each parent to decide for themselves.

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