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01 Oct 12 #358748 by tiggers3
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Hi, hope someone can advise me please.

I have residence, contact with nrp fortnightly contact order in place 3yrs now.

Nrp over this last weekend has slated my spouse (has nothing to do with my son, has no pr and should not be left with him etc etc etc) can nrp keep this act up?

Also nrp wouldn''t return my son Sunday saying his girlfriend was ill no one else who can return (nrp doesn''t drive) but I had no means of collecting son. What are my rights? What happens if son isn''t returned for school.

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01 Oct 12 #358750 by jonathancj
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If there''s a residence order, your ex has no business to be keeping your son back. Why didn''t your ex order a taxi and bring your son back that way?

As far as your spouse is concerned, this is nonsense. Although there''s no pr, the law is simply pragmatic and sensible on this sort of thing. You are fully entitled to leave your son with your spouse in the ordinary way that families have to pull together. He is, after all, his stepfather.

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01 Oct 12 #358797 by tiggers3
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Thank you for the reply,
I offered him train bus and taxi but he still refused and told me I had to get son from NPR house. My order actually states father to collect from and return to mothers house!
My concern is my son well being and education over NPR stubbornness! I don''t want to go back to court but should I or get solicitors to write letter?
Although ex never responded to anything!
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01 Oct 12 #358800 by happyagain
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Agree with the op - dad is being silly about who the child can and can''t be left with. I am sure he leaves son with his gf from time to time!
How did the situation arise where the nrp does all the collecting and returning?

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02 Oct 12 #358838 by Sjw19850141
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I know that when my son was seing his dad it was in the order that he had to collect and return my son after contact, however as he made such a fuss (a bit like this) about how he had to get a taxi and he couldn''t afford it ( he didn''t btw @ the time he lived literally 5 mins away and all he had to actually do was walk down a hill) I ended up doing the drop offs and pick ups but when my son started to get upset at my leaving he then insisted that my mum do the transport! So totally feel for your situation and hope you can get it sorted out x

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02 Oct 12 #358994 by tiggers3
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My solicitor 3 years ago said that father needs to collect and return at mothers home as meeting at train station hand over was not suitable, it has not been rescinded.
And yes his gf had baby on our son birthday this year 3 hours after he collected for contact and never mentioned anything or anyone else looking after him, until son said on return!

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02 Oct 12 #358996 by happyagain
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Firstly tiggers, don''t get drawn into the conflict about who looks after your son. You are entitled to make those decisions in your parenting times and your ex is entitled to do the same during his. He can sing, dance and cry about who you leave your son with but unless there was actual documented evidence of your son''s welfare being at risk then a court would ignore him and tell him to grow up.
However, I do think it is strange that you expect your ex to do all the fetching and carrying just because your solicitor said so. You are both responsible for making contact work - you might have it written into an order that your ex signed but that doesn''t make it fair/morally right, etc. If your ex doesn''t drive then I am surprised that either you or he agreed to this as you will eternally be dependent on another person providing transport. So let''s say that gf really was ill - quite possible and not that unusual - what was the backup plan? Perhaps he didn''t want to leave the poorly gf? - again, not that strange.
I would suggest that you both need to revise your plans in the light of this aas it seems you are at the mercy of another peron''s health and goodwill - and that person is not either of the little boy''s parents.

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