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02 Oct 12 #359000 by disneybunny
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The court order states he do the pick ups and drop off end of.

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03 Oct 12 #359053 by happyagain
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Disneybunny, your comments are unhelpful. Circumstances change - you may have read that the nrp has another child to consider now. If the gf was ill then the humane thing to do would have been to work out other arrangements as travelling by train, etc. clearly would have been difficult with a baby in tow as well.
Flexibility is the key to making contact work and it is the responsibility of both parents to do that. Getting entrenched in the minutaie of contact orders will only come back to bite you on the backside eventually as one day you will also need to benefit from that flexibility. Contact orders are supposed to help progress matters and, if this one has been in place for 3 years, it really is time that it was reviewed.

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03 Oct 12 #359060 by Sjw19850141
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I''m sorry but I disagree that''s what was put I''m my order at the time with the comment from the sheriff that " if he wanted the privilege of seeing his son then he would have to show the maturity and effort in picking him up and returning him home at the designated time" not that I ended up sticking to it cos he made such a fuss so for the sake of peace I did it myself, I think he needs to do what''s in the order and if there''s an emergency then as stated by other boarders why not use a taxi etc?

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03 Oct 12 #359063 by disneybunny
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Sorry Happyagain but how does the nrp being irresponsible enough to have another child when they can''t manage the one they already have make it the rp responsibility to pick up the slack. When I''m illl I still do everything ass rp, ex never says oh it''s both parents responsibility to feed, clothe or emotionally support the children. So why the heck would I use my time and money to sort out a problem he caused.

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03 Oct 12 #359065 by Elphie
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I agree, when I''m I''ll, I have two to look after, youngest being 14 months, no one to bail me out. So if her girlfriend is I''ll, then it is still no reason why she can''t look after her baby for an hour or two while the father gets a taxi to return the other kid to the rp.

Flexibility is fair enough when all other avenues have been explored. In this case they weren''t, the NPR said, well I can''t do it the easy way I usually do, so I''m not doing it.

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03 Oct 12 #359069 by happyagain
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Disneybunny, you are welcome to disagree. I have read many of your other posts already and I understand that your situation is difficult and that makes the idea of cooperation unacceptable to you. However, I think you are out of line commenting about the nrp''s ''irresponsibility'' in having another child. As far as the op stated - this has happened once in 3 years. That is hardly irresponsible?! However, both parents committing to an agreement that relies solely on a third party could be described as such.
I also take issue with the idea that it is a ''privilege'' for children to have contact with their children and I can only assume that this was a comment on a purely individual situation; again, not particularly helpful to the original poster who, I assume, wants to continue contact as peacefully as possible.
I repeat again, and this has been stated on here many times before on here (and it is enshrined in law) that contact is the responsibility of both parents.

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03 Oct 12 #359135 by tiggers3
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I thought I''d clarify a few things, reason we went through the courts is because father wouldn''t return my child at all! Two years we went through court system. I receive no maintenance at all either.
I have other children myself older and younger than son.
My concern that nrp contacted me only few hours before time to return to say come get him and only way he comes home is I fetch him! I had no car and no money. I have in past collected son as I had prior warning.

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