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child maintenace help plzz

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02 Oct 12 #358951 by johnx
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hi everyone i would be grateful if someone could help me out , i will keep my story short as it would take up too much space anyway here goes . i was married with 3 children who werent mines age at the time 11,12,16, and i had a child of my own at 6 months old , i was sleeping in my bed with my wife at the time with the baby at 6months in the middle of us and my wifes son at 16 came in to the bedroom drunk and stabbed me in the face wilst i was sleeping an unprovoked attack which he got done for by the police and the courts , i left on the night which the attack happened to me and never went back and i divorced my wife at the time but i got to see my boy at 6months at a centre for fathers to see there kids for an hour or so but when that finished i had an option to see my kid or never see him again so he is 4 now and ive never been in contact with him which upsets me as i cant have contact with him as i am scared emotionally and physically and ive been threatened this will happen to me again so how can i pay child maintinance for a child that i have never seen not for 1 day since leaving the household and the fathers centre help plzzz


i had supervised contact at a contact centre (fathers'' centre), it was the court-who insisted on this and my ex wife is the mother of our child and i refused to see my son at her familys house because i was being threatened all the time and my ex wife son stabbed me in the face when i was sleeping so i have no way ever of seeing my son hope this helps

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02 Oct 12 #358954 by WYSPECIAL
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Hi.

Not sure what your question is. Are you wanting to pay maintenance for your son but don''t know how to?

Have you been to court to try to get further contact?

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02 Oct 12 #358981 by Fiona
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child maintenance and contact are treated separately. Therefore even if you don''t see your child you still need to provide financial support which is one of the most important contributions a parent can make towards the wellbeing of children.

What happened with the contact centre? It is possible to move from supervised contact, to unsupervised contact and handovers taking place at the contact centre or a neutral public place such as a supermarket car park. It takes a bit of time and perseverance to re-establish contact but unless there are concerns about your behaviour there is no reason why eventually you couldn''t collect your child from school and drop them off there to avoid coming into contact with your ex and her family.

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02 Oct 12 #359033 by johnx
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hi im not going to mince my words i was nearly murdered by my ex wifes son which is also my sons half brother after what happened to me i never want to see any of them again , i know having a kid i have to pay child maintenace but my cicumstances are that much out of this planet no one is takin me in to consideration as ive never seen my child in 4 years and then i get a letter through the door last month saying my ex wants to claim child maintenace for him i find it very weird why she would choose this path after all this time :(

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02 Oct 12 #359037 by sillywoman
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Because your son is entitled to financial assistane from his absent father.

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03 Oct 12 #359116 by Sjw19850141
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I''m not sure what your asking? You should be supporting this child regardless of his other family, it''s not his fault that he has a half brother with murderous tendencies, now as for contact I''d suggest you keep to a contact centre until the relationship is re established and the child is comfortable enough to be left on his own with you, after this there is no reason you couldn''t apply for unsupervised contact or even shares residence but your main aim right now should be to re establish a relationship, as for support this should have been in place all along, a friend of mine doesn''t get to see his son very often but in all the time he didn''t he put money into a trust fund for the baby x

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