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09 Oct 12 #360067 by disneybunny
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How about just playing the game for now, if you can prove you are working at it the judge might be firmer. What harm is a couple of hours at her house for two maybe three weeks, I think she will get bored pretty quickly with him being in her home. I couldn''t stand my ex even walking through the front door so being in my space would have me climbing the walls.

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09 Oct 12 #360068 by sleepybird
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Thats the strange thing disney bunny because she actually seems to enjoy my partner spending time at her house. She has had him there nearly every weekend since 8th sept and is suggesting this carries on. Its so weird.

I dont think she''ll get bored of that at all and I actually think it makes her feel in control of the situation and my partner.

He left her and she seems to have been bitter ever since.

All my partner can do is play the game to be honest but the longer this carries on, the harder it will be for son and its so sad and unfair. He loves being with us.

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09 Oct 12 #360069 by carer
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Hi Sleepybird,

Why dont you all go - you - your partner and your daughter - and make yourself at home. Do the whole ''family'' thing and make a mess - lots of lego and cups of tea - she will soon be bored of that. She cant say you shouldnt be there because the Judge kindly offered your daughter as a friendly face for contact so no worries there.

Play her game and show her you are a strong family unit and you are all willing to do what she wants - sometimes it disarms people if you behave the exact opposite of what they expect.

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09 Oct 12 #360072 by sleepybird
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I agree with you but this is also having an impact on mine and my daughters life. My daughter sees her own dad at weekends and he already agreed to me changing the weekends around so that I could take her as the judge suggested last weekend and i am not making her miss anymore time with her own dad becuase of my partners unreasonable ex.

I also have a life too and cant always drop everything to go and sit in her house for a fews hours because she cant bring herself to let her son see his father without her supervision. she lives an hour and half drive from us.

There are just no answers at the moment and we feel so stuck.

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09 Oct 12 #360076 by carer
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Hi Sleepybird,

Fair enough. It doesnt mean your Partner cant see his son though - so just play her games and show the Judge that there is compromise on your side and very little on mum''s side.

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09 Oct 12 #360079 by sleepybird
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Just read an article on PAS and the similarities are frightening.

Just need a judge to also realise this and as it stands he has made the situation a lot worse!!!:(

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09 Oct 12 #360082 by MrsMathsisfun
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This seems as much about controlling and distrupting your lives as it is about the child. At the moment the ex has you both jumping to her tune in a desperate bid to see the son.

What did the judge actually say regarding contact? Did the judge say contact had to happen in the mothers house? Stick to what judge said and dont get involved with discussions with the mother.

You need make sure you are following the judges direction and then show that mum is still stopping contact.

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