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I can fill some of the bits in by PM. Basically the psychologist has a reputation for recommending switches in residence for parents who are obdurate in contact where there is implacable hostility. He cited a number of instances where the RP changed their obstructive ways after reading the article and getting legal advice.
Dear [Ex spouse first name],
We have not been able to work things out between us that would benefit our much loved [daughter/son/children]. You and I were once very close but this is no longer the case.
One thing is certain, we both love our [son/daughter/children] and want to do what is in [his/her/their] best interests. I have recently come across a website belonging to [PM me for this info] who is an expert in the kind of problems we have had. You may wish to look at it [PM me for the www address]. I feel that with his help we may be able to resolve many of the problems between us. He believes very firmly, and there is much evidence concerning this, that children do best when they have two caring parents who do care for their children.
If you are willing, I propose we see [PM me for name of psychologist] who can help us and avoid the need to continually go to court. He is totally independent and has acted as an expert witness in many cases.
I hope you are willing to give this as try as I am certain that you are as unhappy as I am as a result of our unfriendly behaviour to one another. I know you and I want to be the best parents to our lovely [son/daughter/children/childs name].
I am holding out my hand in friendship because I want to do what is best for our child and I know you feel just the same. Please think about this.
If you do not agree with this possible arrangement, all we have left is to confront one another in a court of law. I, and perhaps you too, would like to avoid this alternative.
[PM me for name of Psychologist] has written many articles and books about family problems. One article was recently published and I am sending it to you and the court. His main website shows his home in the country. The website is [PM me]. It is my aim, with his help, to establish a warm, friendly and co-operative relationship with you. This will be in the best interests of [son/daughter/children] as well as us too.