A well respected, award winning social enterprise
Volunteer run - Government and charity funded
We help 50,000 people a year through divorce

01202 805020

Lines open: Monday to Friday 9am-5pm
Call for FREE expert advice & service info

Outcome from today''s hearing!!!

  • Sjw19850141
  • Sjw19850141's Avatar
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
More
10 Oct 12 #360259 by Sjw19850141
Reply from Sjw19850141
My ex tried the same thing and the sheriff threw it out as it didn''t prove a relationship as my lawyer pointed out just because he smiled at a camera didn''t mean he was happy nor did it prove a relationship as my son would pose happily for a photographer who was a complete stranger, did he then wish to argue that my son had a loving relationship with the photographer, so if you wanna use those I''d make sure that daddy was in the picture too cos the photos that were effectively disregarded were all of my son on his own x

  • sleepybird
  • sleepybird's Avatar Posted by
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
More
10 Oct 12 #360261 by sleepybird
Reply from sleepybird
All of the pictures are just normal holiday photos taken by one of us. They are of son and my daughter together, son with daddy or all of us etc.

Just dont want the judge to not even bother looking at them.

  • Sjw19850141
  • Sjw19850141's Avatar
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
More
10 Oct 12 #360263 by Sjw19850141
Reply from Sjw19850141
That''ll probably go down better, cos these were about half a dozen posed shots of my son on his own x

  • disneybunny
  • disneybunny's Avatar
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
More
10 Oct 12 #360277 by disneybunny
Reply from disneybunny
My ex nicks pictures off my facebook then again he as not seen the kids for coming up two years so wouldn''t know what hey look like otherwise.

  • mbird
  • mbird's Avatar
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
More
10 Oct 12 #360295 by mbird
Reply from mbird
Hey SB hope you are coping ok, and your partner. Hope you don''t mind me saying, and only trying to offer some advice as have been concerned and following post. I think maybe it might be a good time to start a new thread, as this one is veering off?? :-)

  • khan72
  • khan72's Avatar
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
More
11 Oct 12 #360308 by khan72
Reply from khan72
OK,
Time for the big guns... Can you ask your ex to write her a letter. Just copy and paste. Replace a few words in square brackets to suit your own circumstance.


Dear [Ex spouse first name],
We have not been able to work things out between us that would benefit our much loved [daughter/son/children]. You and I were once very close but this is no longer the case.
One thing is certain, we both love our [son/daughter/children] and want to do what is in [his/her/their] best interests. I have recently come across a website belonging to [PM me for this info] who is an expert in the kind of problems we have had. You may wish to look at it [PM me for the www address]. I feel that with his help we may be able to resolve many of the problems between us. He believes very firmly, and there is much evidence concerning this, that children do best when they have two caring parents who do care for their children.
If you are willing, I propose we see [PM me for name of psychologist] who can help us and avoid the need to continually go to court. He is totally independent and has acted as an expert witness in many cases.
I hope you are willing to give this as try as I am certain that you are as unhappy as I am as a result of our unfriendly behaviour to one another. I know you and I want to be the best parents to our lovely [son/daughter/children/childs name].
I am holding out my hand in friendship because I want to do what is best for our child and I know you feel just the same. Please think about this.
If you do not agree with this possible arrangement, all we have left is to confront one another in a court of law. I, and perhaps you too, would like to avoid this alternative.
[PM me for name of Psychologist] has written many articles and books about family problems. One article was recently published and I am sending it to you and the court. His main website shows his home in the country. The website is [PM me]. It is my aim, with his help, to establish a warm, friendly and co-operative relationship with you. This will be in the best interests of [son/daughter/children] as well as us too.

Yous Sincerely,

[Your name]

I can fill some of the bits in by PM. Basically the psychologist has a reputation for recommending switches in residence for parents who are obdurate in contact where there is implacable hostility. He cited a number of instances where the RP changed their obstructive ways after reading the article and getting legal advice.

Hope it helps

  • u6c00
  • u6c00's Avatar
  • Platinum Member
  • Platinum Member
More
12 Nov 12 #365869 by u6c00
Reply from u6c00
Sent you a PM sleepybird

Moderators: wikivorce teamrubytuesdaydukeyhadenoughnowTetsSheziLinda SheridanForsetiMitchumWhiteRoseLostboy67WYSPECIALBubblegum11