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08 Oct 12 #359805 by Jenna29
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My daughter is only 5 but gets homework everyday - including extra on Fridays for the weekend. On her weekends with her father, he is supposed to collect her at 5.30pm but usually if he can arrive early I let him collect her early - usually at 4/4.30pm. She returns on Sundays at 5pm. She stays up late at his house and is usually ready for bed straight after tea on Sundays, leaving no time for homework. I asked if he could do it with her over the weekend but he says he doesn''t have enough time with her and that school is ''my area.'' I said that she''ll have to stay til 5.30pm on Fridays to do it then, to which he said I''m blackmailing him. What do you do regarding homework?

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08 Oct 12 #359810 by Forseti
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It seems reasonable to me that he should play a part in helping with homework - it is absurd to regard school, or any other aspect of your daughter''s life, as only one parent''s ''area''.

It is vital that contact should involve as much normal day-to-day parenting as possible, and not just fun activities. The more involved he is with your daughter''s schooling the better, statistically, she is likely to do. As she gets older her school success and exam performance will depend more and more on the extent to which her father is involved with these things.

Throw some of the relevant research at him and persuade him he is compromising her development and potential by refusing to pull his weight!

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08 Oct 12 #359814 by Enuff Already
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Jenna, your history with this guy does not bode well for a good outcome. I would contact the school and explain that on dads contact weekend the homework may not be done on time, ask for a few extra days if necessary, but don''t make a meal or an argument out of it. Don''t dictate pick up times so she can do homework, send it with her anyway and hope for the best. You have so much else on your plate why pick another battle. She is only 5, and whilst I agree homework is imortant and habits to learning form from a young age I would not make this an issue.

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08 Oct 12 #359827 by Fiona
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I agree with Enuff Already. It would be great if both parents were involved with homework but the reality is it doesn''t always happen. I would have thought doing homework on a Friday night at the end of a school week isn''t ideal.

If you have a word with the school perhaps they will give your daughter homework early or make allowance for her handing it in late. I''m sure it ail be fine. My ex never did homework with our children and one of them was offered an unconditional place at Oxbridge in his penultimate year at secondary school which is quite an achievement for any child.

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09 Oct 12 #359971 by Jenna29
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There is no point sending it as he will not only not do it with her but he won''t return her school books either. I do think it''s unfair on her that he won''t take part in her school work and agree that Friday isn''t the best time to do it. I will speak to the school and see what they say.

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09 Oct 12 #360081 by loveourmum
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Jenna29

I wholeheartedly agree with you in that there is no point sending homework if Dad is not going to do it nor return the school books!

Totally agree that you should make alternative arrangements with the school/class Teacher.

This will also give you the peace of mind that your little one is not missing out on homework and that it is completed when due if not before.

Best wishes

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