Hi All
Just an update and any advice is really appreciated:
First
mediation session was a joke as mum just lied like she did at the first Contested Hearing and said that the current order works really well.
I explained that the handovers cause stress to the children and it seems to everybody''s view, including CAFCASS, school and the Judge that something needs to change.
I will go to the next
mediation session and will just explain at the start that there is a lot of evidence that the current routine does not work for the children and unless mum is prepared to show some flexibility the matter will need to be put before the court again.
I feel completely intimidated by mum, even at
mediation and the mediation process is causing me complete anxiety. I feel sick and am having nightmares at the thought of the next session.
As mum has broken the order several times and justs wants to control me (e.g.in
mediation saying ''if we stick witgh the currnt order I will be flexible and let my son go the football'') I am also suggesting that any agreements made are put into the changed order.
To remind everybody my application was to:
1. Decide the next school for the kids - all sorted now.
2. Apply for Shared Residence again.
3. Gat a new routine for the children that includes some more specifics such as birthdays, certain events, etc.
I am actually abroad at the moment on a holiday. I have married my long term girl friend. This will make ex frious even more but I refuse to be blackmailed and am trying to stop her bullying me. I don''t live at my parents with siblings all around me helping me to bully. I am going through this for my children alone and the support of my now wife will help.
Thanks all - dreading
mediation, dreading court....
Mark x