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11 Oct 12 #360427 by Saffs
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As if filling out the form E today wasnt stressful enough have just received a letter from CAFCASS saying the Court has asked them to be involved and they will phone before the First hearing which is next Monday!
Phoned Court to say I have not received any notification other than letter from CAFCASS which gives no time of hearing etc. Eventually it transpires that ex has been told to "serve me the papers" -they can confirm it was a c100 application but not what he is applying for. I was in hospital last week so possible I missed the post??
Ex has alternate weekend contact, midweek overnight contact, shared holidays, alternate Christmas holidays. And whilst I was in hospital (unplanned emergency operation) he cared for them.
Not sure what he is doing...he recently cancelled two weekends of contact when he was away on holiday with OW, I did offer the following weekend to "catch up" but he chose not to. He has also recently stopped bringing son home from a club which he had asked to do in mediation.
So confused...he has good contact... 3 children are all under 12 and I have always promoted contact (got all email evidence)and they are settled in current routine of contact.

Last night son phoned in tears asking to come home saying "dad was being annoying", I attempted to reassure him but ex dropped him back home half hour later. Son later said "dad said mum was filling their heads with nonsense and dad wouldnt listen to him". At the time I was confused, now with CAFCASS letter in hand it makes sense...he assumes I would have told them (which I wont!!)
Abusive emails from him continue....recent one suggesting I had mental health problems! Sigh!
Do I just wait to be "served"? He has no solicitor.

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11 Oct 12 #360431 by GETTING STRONGER NOW
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in a similar situation except there is No contact at present with my ex and the kids at their request. Obviously I am poisoning their minds which is not true, he does a good job of that himself.
I received notification from my ex he has used the excuse that I have psychologically and emotionly abusing them. I dare not tell them this, I have just said dad is going to court because he wants to see them! My kids are 14 and 12, my daughter is very strong willed and knows what she does and does not want!!
I am waiting to hear from Cafcass but my hearing is next week and still i have not heard anything.

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11 Oct 12 #360436 by Saffs
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Its so frustrating! My ex has good relationship with his kids but just wants to destroy me and sadly cant see the damage he is doing to them! I''m not too worried about court (more scared for financial proceedings!!)as I know I have done everything to promote good contact and never badmouth him (he doesn''t believe this) and he told the children he left because I had an affair (not true and was other way round)so maybe if someone spoke to the children they would at least have a voice. Its probably harder for you as you cant "force" children that age if they refuse to have contact.
What are you taking to court in terms of preparation for hearing?

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11 Oct 12 #360439 by GETTING STRONGER NOW
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Has he has alleged that I am abusing my children then i have asked school for a report on their social as well as academic skills. Both have glowing reports which show no signs of any problems. I obviously have my story of events which he as alleged. I have police crime reference numbers, sadly i have photographic evidence of injuries he has caused to me.
despite all this i still want there to be contact, it is the children themselves that do not. My ex thinks he has been the perfect father but it was our daughter then 13 that told me she thought he was having an affair, when I found out about it, she said good maybe you will make him leave now. He has compared her to his girlfriend who is only 6 years older than her but told her his girlfriend is a much better person! but yet he wonders why she doesn''t want to see him.

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