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Ex husband choosy about what he does

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15 Oct 12 #361172 by Oliviadoris
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I have two children with my ex husband ages 17 and 14.

Ex really only wants to have 14 year old on weekends not both.

Eldest child has a Saturday job working with horses and she wants to work in animal management. The job she has is inconvenient with times but the experience she gets (not to mention the money) is invaluable.

Ex has been on at her for months to get a job because when she is at his if they go to the cinema, etc he expects her to pay for herself, etc.

Now she''s got one if it is his weekend he is refusing to take her to work. He would have to drive 35 mins to take and pick up. On my weekends I have to do Sat and Sun 30 min drive each way. Last weekend he complained about the petrol money and the wear and tear on his car! He doesn''t complain about petrol money when he takes our son out.

Daughter not able to drive and isn''t likely to be able to learn for a while plus the expense of a car even if she did learn.

I don''t want to give up my weekends as my partner lives in Brighton and it is a good 2 hour drive. Several times now I''ve had to come home early because ex has refused to do something or other to help daughter.

Ex refuses to discuss. What to do? Any suggestions?

Just as an aside - he left us so he has no reason really to be p****d off at us.

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16 Oct 12 #361238 by For real
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It''s obvious you can''t rely on your ex so you will have to look at alternatives, your daughter is 17 she is old enough to be left alone while your away overnight. Can she make alternative arrangements to travel to and from work, can she enlist the help of someone else and maybe offer a little towards expenses. (I don''t think she should be offerign dad money for expenses - sounds like he is a miserable git). I have a similar issue in that my sons father has little to do with his hobbies so when I work on the Saturday I have to enlist the help of others to transport him to his club, pick up from club and then to drop my son at the meeting place for his dad to pick him up. Often this means two different people doing part of the journey. I know I cannot rely on his dad so I have had to look at alternatives, a pain in the a**e at times but I do it for my son not his father.

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16 Oct 12 #361322 by Oliviadoris
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Thanks suppose that''s the only thing I can do as well. Unfortunately no one can help on this particular issue

Sometimes wish the courts would produce a couple of heavies one on each side of these men and then tell them they do their duty or there will be a visit!

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