A well respected, award winning social enterprise
Volunteer run - Government and charity funded
We help 50,000 people a year through divorce

01202 805020

Lines open: Monday to Friday 9am-5pm
Call for FREE expert advice & service info

Abuse from Ex re contact

  • paulap
  • paulap's Avatar Posted by
  • New Member
  • New Member
16 Oct 12 #361251 by paulap
Topic started by paulap
My stbx is being rediculous over everything! He wants our daughter every weekend til 4-6 on a sunday meaning my family and myself get no time with her. During the time when he has her he rings and abuses me, accusing me of running of with other men ect.This can go on past midnight. I did mamage to keep her tis weekend and had a really enjoyable time, having my niece and nephew round ( she previousy saw them 2-3 times a week and hasnt seen them for 4-5 weeks). During the time I had her he still rang and abused me- about 45 missed phone calls alone and messages asking was it approprite I was home with her and the accusing me of being with other men and negelting her?

Whats my rights and what could I do?

Thanks. Desperate!

P x

  • rubytuesday
  • rubytuesday's Avatar
  • Moderator
  • Moderator
16 Oct 12 #361254 by rubytuesday
Reply from rubytuesday
You could block his number on your phone, and buy a cheap PAYG phone and give him that number, then stick the phone in a drawer and look at it every few days.

You could just ignore his calls, or hang up on him when he starts being abusive. You could look into a non-molestation order to prevent him from contacting you directly, or ask a solicitor to write a strongly worded letter that all communications in future are be via email only and only to be regarding child arrangements.

Or, if these calls continue to be at an unreasonable hour, call the police.

As for your daughter being with your ex every weekend, this doesn''t allow your daughter to spend any proper time with you, every other weekend and one or two over nights during the week would seem fairer for all concerned.

You don''t have to put up with level of abuse, it''s completely unacceptable :angry:

Moderators: wikivorce teamrubytuesdaydukeyhadenoughnowTetsSheziLinda SheridanForsetiMitchumWhiteRoseLostboy67WYSPECIALBubblegum11

The modern, convenient and affordable way to divorce.

No-Fault Divorce £179

We provide the UK's lowest cost no-fault divorce service, managed by a well respected firm of solicitors. 

Online Mediation £250

Online mediation is a convenient and inexpensive way to agree on a fair financial settlement.

Consent Order £259

This legally binding agreement defines how assets (e.g. properties and pensions) are to be divided.

Court Support £250

Support for people who have to go to court to get a fair divorce financial settlement without a solicitor.