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My husband says he will take my son

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23 Apr 18 #500904 by Chaine20
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I am in a relationship where I suffer domestic abuse. I have been accused of cheating the whole relationship and after 7 years I finally cheated on him with a much older man and he found out 3 months ago. He is making my life more miserable than before. He is threatening that is I leave especially if I end up with who I cheated on him with then he will make sure that I never see my son again as it isn’t healthy. Is he actually able to do this? I can’t kwwp on in this marriagw anymore but I also do not want to loose my son he is my world. Please could someone help me with this or give me some advice I just can’t carry on like this anymore :(

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23 Apr 18 #500917 by elizadoolittle
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It is in the best interest of children to maintain relationships with both parents, and unless there is any danger to your son in your care (which it doesn't sound as though he could establish) he cannot be kept from you. The courts (if they are involved) will do what they can to further the best interests of your son, first and foremost.

Your ex is lashing out and making threats. You say you have been in an abusive relationship; this may be him trying to control you as well as venting his anger.

By the way, adultery is not a crime and does not have any impact on divorce settlements. Domestic abuse is a crime. If you have been suffering domestic abuse (and have limited means) you may be able to get legal aid to help you for free. See if you can find out more about this here, or via sources such as gingerbread or the citzens advice bureau.

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27 Apr 18 #501111 by polar
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Eliza is right. Your x cannot stop you seeing your kids but you have to remember that the equal rights movement is growing in force so technically both parents will have equal rights to see/keep the child.
That said each side will have to present their case to the court to decide regarding where the kids live and can provide the most stable environment.

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27 Apr 18 #501122 by Mitchum
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Hi Chaine
It is always distressing to read of someone suffering domestic abuse. Your wellbeing and that of your son is paramount now.

He is threatening that you won't see your son in order to keep you there, and there can be more abuse. That is a very destructive cycle and I urge you to get out of it.

Please check the National Domestic Helpline run jointly by Refuge and Women's Aid.


Free helpline: 0808 2000 247

On their website they advise you to 'cover your tracks'. Your safety is a priority here and I would advise you to do the same. Protect your passwords. Change them if necessary.

Don't put too many details on this site either.

Let us know how you get on.

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