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24 May 18 #501845 by thevicar
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I have a Child Arrangements Order for my son who is 2 years old.

It is worded to distinguish between term time and holiday time.

The first holiday period I was threatened with Police if I did not bring my son back 2 days early to what the court order stipulates. The threats of Police came from the solicitor instructed by the mother. I gave in to their demands but made it quite clear this was contrary to the Order.

Now the next holiday period has arrived and they are attempting to manipulate the Order again this time by one night.

I am fortunate that I have half of all the holidays, alternate weekends in term time and one night in the week for a child that was less than 2 years old at the time.

The mother refuses my invite to mediation. I know I can file an enforcement notice but will the courts just laugh at me as it's just 2 days here and there? I'm thinking I have 14 more years of this and I would rather sort it out now. The solicitors letters and threats are starting to affect me now and it's upsetting. Surely what is the point of Court Orders if they are not enforceable? How will I be treated?

Also is there a cost with enforcement notices?

Thank you for reading :-)

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25 May 18 #501853 by WYSPECIAL
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thevicar wrote:

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The first holiday period I was threatened with Police if I did not bring my son back 2 days early to what the court order stipulates. The threats of Police came from the solicitor instructed by the mother. I gave in to their demands but made it quite clear this was contrary to the Order.


What were you/they expecting the Police to do?

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25 May 18 #501856 by thevicar
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I have no idea but it was a threat in a solicitor letter which I will always add as evidence.

For them it was threat, whether they would have gone through with it who knows for me I have no idea what the Police would do. I guess as the non-resident parent they would have asked me to diffuse the situation and hand our child back to the mother.

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