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Children Custody - who gets it?

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12 Jun 18 #502229 by Davdan
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Hello everyone.

Many thanks so far for all great advise and information.

I am back with more question on children custody.

What are the likelihood of my husband getting the custody of our boys - they are 13 & 15.

Little summary:

I have petitioned him based on his UB in April and he is in the process of cross petitioning me on my UB.
We both work full time and currently are both living in MH, he has no intention to leave till all divorce and financial settled - he has the option to move to one of hid BTL near his work.
He is asking me to move out into the property i inherited which is near MH. He wants to stay with boys in MH. His job is 80 miles away and he commutes everyday.

If he fights over children custody, will he be awarded?

I would appreciate your input.

Many Thanks

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13 Jun 18 #502232 by WYSPECIAL
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There is no such thing as custody, there hasn't been for years.

Usually parents sort child care arrangements themselves these days. Courts only make an Order when it really needed.

You don't say what the plans are going forwards but at 13 and 15 your sons will have a big say in it if there are disagreements.

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13 Jun 18 #502235 by Davdan
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Many thanks WYSPECIAL

There is no plan in place yet.
But the boys definitely want to stay in the school and live in MH. The question is who stay with them in MH.
I thought it would be automatic that I stay with them and they visit their father in the weekend (if he moves to the city he works, is 80 miles away from MH).

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13 Jun 18 #502239 by Mitchum
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As your children are older its natural for them to have their own opinions on what they wish to happen, so you will both have to listen to their ideas and allay their fears that their lives are going to be turned upside down.

Emotions can run high at times and it's important the children don't feel torn between the two of you. From what you say he seems pretty intransigent at the moment but hopefully he can be persuaded to be more flexible over the arrangements.

Perhaps he will see that sorting things out amicably will in the end save money and free up more for the essentials. The more that can be resolved between the two of you the less in legal costs. It will also keep the atmosphere better for all but especially the children.

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13 Jun 18 #502242 by Davdan
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Many thanks Mitchum

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