It has been a while since I needed to post here, my exhusband has been having the children one Saturday in every two for the last year, due to complications that arose when they stayed with him, we were involved with the social services at the time,and the children needed to be kept safe, they weren't while with him.
For a year he has come taken them out for the day and brought them back, for the first time I said I would not be back until ten, because I need time, I am shattered and left with solely bringing the children up the rest of the time, it feels wholly unfair. Last night he returned the children 6 and 13 home and left them alone for four hours with the 13 year old to take responsibily for a six year old.
I am looking at going to court, but see absolutely no point in wasting time or money to get him to have more access if he refuses to comply. Is it worth the waste of time.
I contacted the police last night, they didn't seem bothered and said to contact the social services. I will seek further advice. I have advised him there will be no contact until there is a legal plan in place, but will it serve it's purpose? I feel I have been left with all the responsibility no overnights, it is hard.
Yes, the crazy world we live in those fighting for contact, and those who desperately wish thier children could have more or some.
I realised after posting, there is nothing I can do but accept that at least they have a day a fortnight, taking that away and going into fight for more because I am not happy would be unfair on them, and accepting the status quo is the healthiest thing for the children, regardless of whether is healthy for me or not, though a refreshed and refueled mother is a better mother! Thank you for your response.