My ex and I have a 50/50 split during term times. ITs been working for a couple of years, The kids are fine with it, he constantly wants to swap it about to suit him not the kids. Im standing my ground.
When it comes to Holidays, its a different matter. I have suggested they are a 50/50 split too. This is not enough for him.
His family are in Oz, and he says visiting them is priority and as such needs more holidays than I have with them as visiting his family doesn't count as "holiday time" its just part of the kids lives. This year he is taking them over xmas, having a week off school too. He then asked yesterday if he could have October half term to take them somewhere...I said we should split it as id like to do some fun things too, this was refused.
I have suggested if for e.g. he has xmas hols to spend with them, or easter, then maybe I get two one week half terms to spend with them, keeping it equal. Nothing is good enough and if i back down on his current demands then I will not have xmas with them, october half term with them, and also now Easter. It seems unfair that he can monopolise all holidays and essentially over a year ill end up with way less than 50% time with my children.
Can he do this? can I say no, and put my foot down at a 50/50 split of holidays too...surely thats fair?