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02 Nov 18 #504668 by Cheesestring
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My children are seeing their father at a supervised contact centre. The kids absolutely hate it and are in tears every weekend. I have to bribe/lie to them otherwise they won't leave the house/car. I hate doing this to them and it breaks my heart.

What can I do?

Any advice or help would be appreciated.

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03 Nov 18 #504681 by WYSPECIAL
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Is there a reason why you are using a contact centre?

How long do you expect it to be before you can move on from this?

How old are children?

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03 Nov 18 #504683 by Cheesestring
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There was dv when we were together.

We have atleast 6 sessions booked and then we have court hearing in December

Children are both under 3 years old.

Both the children cry hysterically when I leave them there, I hear them crying so loud that it breaks my heart. I go back in to calm them down because father isn't able to.

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03 Nov 18 #504688 by imblue
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Is there a social worker or member of staff recording the children reactions. I'm guessing there will be. it is heart breaking for you has well has the children, has upsetting has this is, at least you are showing that your not stopping the father access. Please make sure you keep a record of how the children are, before contact and afterwards, how long it takes them to calm down and resettle. Hopefully the report from the contact centre will help your case. half of me is wanting to say dont calm them down, I know that's hard, but the contact centre need to see he is incapable of knowing what to do, either that or the children are scared. Also have a word the contact centre, see what they say, I know they cant stop it happening but if you express how much this is hurting you they can put that in there report how distressing it was for you. But record every thing time dates the lot.

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