We have a formal contact arrangement and I am the main carer but now my Ex wants to take our 6 year old to see family in Caribbean for 20 days at Christmas! He is getting aggressive verbally about it and says I'm spoiling what would be a trip of a lifetime for our daughter.
I think 2 weeks would be long enough for a 6 year old. She will also miss school and gym that my parents pay for. I will also be devastated.
When you say "formal contact arrangement" do you mean a court order? If so, what does the order say in regard to Dad's time with daughter?
20 days is quite a long time and would mean that your daughter wouldn't be able to enjoy any of the Christmas holidays with you and would also miss some school as you point out.
While spending time with her extended family would be beneficial to her, that needs to be weighed up against her missing out on time with you and missing out on some of her school time.
The wording in the order is important here, if there is no order, then he would require your consent to take your daughter out of the jurisdiction. If you don't agree, then he would need to apply for a Specific Issue Order to request permission from the court to take her.
Thank you for your reply. I meant to say "informal arrangements" for contact. I think it will help me knowing I can say he will need to go to court to get a specific order if he insists on a 20 day holiday.