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Contact following Psychological Abuse

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1 year 2 months ago #506805 by Tudorfan
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I have separated from my Husband, we have a 3 year old. He was psychologically abusive to me and our daughter throughout our time together. He is extremely manipulative and a very good actor, comes across charming/victim.

I know no court in the country will believe me in regards to what he has done to my child and I, how on earth do I protect her going forward? I was quoted £30,000 by one solicitor to fight for supervised access in court which I simply don't have.

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1 year 2 months ago #506822 by Cheesestring
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£30k is extremely high for cao legal fees.

Why would you 'fight for supervised access' if your daughter lives with you? If your ex wants to see your daughter he would have to apply to court fora child arrangements order (cao) but before he submits paperwork you have to attend mediation or he has to show he attempted mediation which failed. They sign forms and then he sends to court.

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1 year 2 months ago #506823 by Tudorfan
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Because I have tried to keep contact to a minimum to reduce damage done to her but he is constantly asking for more during mediation and using the process itself to manipulate/abuse.

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1 year 2 months ago #506835 by Cheesestring
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Are CAFCASS involved? If they are they will definitely speak to you and your daughter separately or together. Be really open and honest and tell them everything.

My ex was the same, cafcass and the courts saw right through him.

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1 year 2 months ago #506842 by Tudorfan
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I don't think they will speak to her as she is only 3. What access did her get in your case?

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