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Co parenting arrangemnets

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10 months 3 days ago #508733 by LalM
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Can anyone help please on co parenting and what possible options maybe. I am starting divorce proceedings and my husband will be buying me out of the fmh. He is insisting that it’s best for our 2 teenage boys to live with him.

I have suggested that we look at shared parenting so either 3 or 4 nts with each parent or a week with one and a week with the other. But he is saying this will be too disruptive for them.

Also when it comes to speaking to the children and what they want what is the best way to do this? If we are speaking to them together I don’t want to put them in a situation where they are choosing where to live and with which parent. ( they are 14 and 16)

Any advice would be much appreciated by anyone that has gone through anything similar.

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9 months 4 weeks ago #508857 by Allcry
Replied by Allcry on topic Re:Co parenting arrangemnets
To answer your question, anything you both want. You do not have to do what a website says if you can agree with your children and ex.

Nonsense about disruptive, you are separated, sharing parenting is the least disruptive for the child. Plus they get two of everything.

Ask him to explain how it is disruptive? You can then put in what you would think could work around that.

Things are often said to lull you into a false sense of security. Or your ex could be normal.

Get the proposal in writing first before you negotiate anything else.

Then write back to your offer, even if you discuss. You can say that putting it in writing makes more sense or whatever.

If they decline to put a draft agreement in writing, then write to them and ask them is this what they meant.

I have heard on this forum and in life, that once people agree on something they often backtrack or start proceedings their own way.

Be careful. The draft often stands up in court.

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