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25 Feb 20 #511622 by herb21
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Hi I have been divorced 6 years I have a court order which says the children stay a minimum of 104 nights with me. The kids live 135 miles from me - ex's decision to make contact difficult. As the kids have got older she lets them come up less - which she has been to the csa about - saying they want to spend time with their friends.
The kids stay with me on alternate weekends and at allocated holidays and half terms throughout the year, We meet halfway on a Friday. I as a I mentioned in an earlier post am under investigation for Epilepsy meaning I cannot drive for a year. With he help of friends and family I have still had them every weekend. Now my ex is telling me she has to work more Fridays so as to limit my contact further. The csa have told me that it is her who is breaching the court order - so she should go back to court to have it changed. I just want to see my kids - I want to see them if not more then for the agreed time of 104 nights. Her solicitor has already threatened to go to court and take statements from the children regarding where and when they spend their time. It seems to me this whole system is open to abuse and that I am powerless to stop this - or has someone got any experience of being in a similar situation which can provide a glimmer of hope?

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03 Mar 20 #511700 by JC1969
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How old are your kids btw?

Do you have contact with them outside of physical visits with phone calls etc?

How do they feel about all of this?

I'm asking all these questions as their needs are paramount here and she cannot deny your kids their father. You both have shared parental responsibility so fight for your rights brother

When my ex was trying to cut my weekends short, I stood my ground because the legal person I consulted said she had no rights to do what she's was doing. Your situation sounds more challenging and I feel for you having to travel so far but you still have your rights.

You may well have to go to court to force it and it would help immensely if your kids are on side. She'll probably back down if you fight your corner. Remember solicitors are always going to be biased to their client and spout the same crap your ex would.

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