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Removeing child from school on my contact night

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19 Mar 12 #318972 by Notgiving up
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My ex has just removed my son from school early (1hr) to get him before me. she has said it was for a dr''s appointment, but I know she is going out with him. What action can I take to stop her doing it again in the future?
Will school take any action?

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19 Mar 12 #318974 by WhiteRose
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Hi,

I doubt the school will get involved.

How was contact arranged? Contact Order or voluntary agreement?

Did she inform you beforehand of the change and has she offered any alternative contact time in replacement?

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19 Mar 12 #318981 by Notgiving up
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Contact is through contact order. Specifies my shift when the boys with me. This is the second time she has done this and feel she will do it again. Really frustrating. As if I went and did it there would be world war three. She put in the contact book that she had booked a show on my night, no request just she booked it and no offer of alternative night. Really frustrated. Would a prohibited steps order be the route to go down to avoid this in the future?

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19 Mar 12 #318983 by WhiteRose
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I wonder if a strongly worded sol letter would help her stick to the agreement?

Maybe you should look into taking her back to Court for enforcement if it continues. Maybe if its happened half a dozen times an enforcement may be the only thing she takes notice of.

In the meantime - keep calm, don''t rise to any provocation and don''t do any tit-for-tat stuff and note down details of these occasions.

If it does end up in court she can''t use your behaviour or any anger you''ve expressed against you.

Yes, it must be frustrating!

Take care

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19 Mar 12 #318985 by Notgiving up
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Thanks for the reminder to stay calm. Easy to get drawn in. Have history of false allegations and not going to be sucked in again. Fed up with the prospect of more court, but feel only way. Past 2 years summer holidays have ended up with her on my doorstep demanding the kids after 8 nights. Why do mothers feel they are gods and can do what they like with the kids, as soon as a dad steps out of line the world clamps down on them.

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19 Mar 12 #318989 by WhiteRose
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Yes, very easy to get drawn in (speaking from experience) think calm thoughts and focus on the bigger picture (you and your lad having regular contact)

Your comment about Mothers thinking they''re Gods .............. mmmmm I know you''re in a bad place with your ex, but all us Mums aren''t bad eggs ;);)it can be easy to think this from where you are right now, but please don''t tar us with that brush. Some of us are quite reasonable - honestly B):blink::laugh:

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19 Mar 12 #318993 by Notgiving up
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Frustration.. I have done everything by the book accepted her stomping her feet though the divorce, gave her the FMH, received nothing from the FMH.

Know in the majority mums do put their kids first. My new partner has a great relationship with her ex and the kids are a credit to them both. Just frustrated with my ex acting unilaterally. We have shared residence order but not shared by any means. She even put it in a statement she regrets agreeing to it.

I have a great relationship with my boys and it''s a shame mum is so against us having one

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