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20 Mar 12 #319079 by Stunnedfish
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I have found out that while on holiday with his dad my son has been sharing a bed with his dads girlfriends daughter. My son is 10 and her daughter is 13. I am not very happy about this and would like opinions?
It''s also bothers me that the girls mum doesn''t have a problem with this.

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20 Mar 12 #319084 by survive
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Personally I agree with you, especially given there ages. Was the bed in the same room as the adults?

I had a similar situation whereby my children had shared a bed with ex new girlfriend on their own, individually ''for a sleepover''. I complained about this, got a load of bullsxxt back, but eventually it was agreed that this would not happen again.

Is there no reason why the 2 children , one could have slept on the floor?

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20 Mar 12 #319090 by Stunnedfish
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They were in a different room from the adults and a 15 year old boy also in the room. A double bed and a single and my son was sharing with the girl. There is also a sofa bed in the house so no real need for this to happen. I like you got loads of abuse when I raised this. I was told that when my son is with his dad I just have to trust him to make disisions on what''s ok.

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20 Mar 12 #319094 by sillywoman
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oh no, that is wrong!

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20 Mar 12 #319143 by survive
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To an extent you do have to trust his decision but if yoiu feel the childrens welfare is at stake then as the other parent you are entitled to air your opinion and have some say in the matter. I would have thought that given their ages, to ''protect'' all the children concerned then seprate sleeping arrangement would be advisable

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20 Mar 12 #319152 by PinkDuck
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I agree that a 13 year old girl and 10 year old boy sharing a bed is a no no. If anything the two lads should have shared the bed, (or one used the sofa bed).

That said, I know a lot depends on maturity and outlook of the children. If the kids in question get along really well and are ''like'' siblings then they may have seen it for what it was, just sleeping arrangements.

When I babysat my bf''s kids while he worked I needed to put up a temporary bed for my son (11), (very much on par maturity wise with a 7/8 due to his disability) as my bf was returning very late. I put the bed up in the girls room as the eldest girl and my son get on like a house on fire and wanted to share and as that was the room with the most space for the bed. They had changed for bed in separate rooms and were sleeping in separate beds and I, personally, didnt see the problem.

Kids mother hit the roof and portrayed my son as a pervert and a threat to the girls to social services. The fallout was certainly not worth letting the kids have what they wanted.

Can I just ask, if the kids had been related would you have seen it differently and reacted differently?

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