A well respected, award winning social enterprise
Volunteer run - Government and charity funded
We help 50,000 people a year through divorce

01202 805020

Lines open: Monday to Friday 9am-5pm
Call for FREE expert advice & service info

PR

  • peterplumber
  • peterplumber's Avatar Posted by
  • Junior Member
  • Junior Member
More
19 Apr 12 #325133 by peterplumber
Topic started by peterplumber
I have received a letter from a mediation service inviting me to mediation to disscuss arrangments for my daughter. I have to admit to feeling confused as to why, as my xw and i have signed the Arrangments for children forms.I have agreed to attend but have concerns as to xw intentions.In part 6 of the Petition she has made false alligations against me and in a letter from her solicitor further alligations have been made. I have a feeling she is trying to have my parental responsibility removed and may be planning to go for a court order to do this hence mediation. My question is, Can she apply to the courts for a court order to to have my parental responsibility removed? She has said to me in the past that she wants full and total responsibility for our daughter.

  • rubytuesday
  • rubytuesday's Avatar
  • Moderator
  • Moderator
More
19 Apr 12 #325137 by rubytuesday
Reply from rubytuesday
Its very unusual for a court to remove Parental Responsibility from a parent - and certainly wont do this just because a mother wants full and total responsibility.

mediation will give you the opportunity to work through the issues and hopefully come to an amicable and workable arrangement.

  • peterplumber
  • peterplumber's Avatar Posted by
  • Junior Member
  • Junior Member
More
19 Apr 12 #325154 by peterplumber
Reply from peterplumber
thxs rubytuesday, i understand about the mediation , but i suspect she is planning to restrict what say i have in my daughters future.
she doesn''t keep me informed about schooling and i have had to go direct to the school to find things out.

  • rubytuesday
  • rubytuesday's Avatar
  • Moderator
  • Moderator
More
19 Apr 12 #325160 by rubytuesday
Reply from rubytuesday
Sometimes, if one parent isnt forthcoming about school, etc, it is better to go direct to the school and make sure that you are down as the first emergency contact and that they send you copies of school reports, and other important information. Most schools now have websites, where all the latest newsletters are published.

  • peterplumber
  • peterplumber's Avatar Posted by
  • Junior Member
  • Junior Member
More
19 Apr 12 #325163 by peterplumber
Reply from peterplumber
Hi have done that and now get weekley news letter via email but xw has listed me as 4th!! on the contact list putting her mother and sister before me! My daughter is due to start secondry school this september and i am now in consultation with her new school. I intend to bring up in mediation these points along with the fact that she is stopping my daughter from seeing my new partner and any member of my family.

  • rubytuesday
  • rubytuesday's Avatar
  • Moderator
  • Moderator
More
19 Apr 12 #325166 by rubytuesday
Reply from rubytuesday
I would phone the school tomorrow and make sure they have you as the first contact - not fourth!

Continuing relationships with extended family is very important, and unless there are child protection issues, she can not decide who your daughter sees when she is with you. New partners can be a bit tricky, but the bottom line is that what you do, and who with during your parenting time is down to you, and not for her to dictate.

  • peterplumber
  • peterplumber's Avatar Posted by
  • Junior Member
  • Junior Member
More
19 Apr 12 #325168 by peterplumber
Reply from peterplumber
Thxa again ruby , the school have said they wont change things unless it comes from my xw.
I will if you don''t mind send you a pvt message.

Moderators: wikivorce teamrubytuesdaydukeyhadenoughnowTetsSheziLinda SheridanForsetiMitchumWhiteRoseLostboy67WYSPECIALBubblegum11