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29 Apr 12 #327085 by caring soul
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Hi All

Has anyone had experienced when ex has said he cannot have the children for any holidays?

My ex has agreed to have them every bank holidays which i know im lucky he still sees the children but it doesnt give me much time maybe a extra day to my weekend off!

Does anyone know if this happens next year can i do anything about this through a solictor? We were supposed to have joint custody but worried he will just bank holidays again?

Thanks Caringsoul

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29 Apr 12 #327105 by NewHorizons
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When my ex was having the children for contact he chose not to have them for holidays.

The last time they stayed with him was for three nights back in August 2007. He told me this was a week. B)My youngest was 8 then.

I''ve not had a break since, and even though my lot are now old enough for me to go out, sadly, I have no social life anyway.

Ah well.

Thank goodness for Wiki.

Having said that, I will never understand it.

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29 Apr 12 #327116 by Emma8485
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Hi Caringsoul my ex is the same. He is having the girls for one week over Summer and thats it - the remainder of the time he has them alternate weekends but never later than 4pm on a Sunday, and doesnt have bank holidays either. I text him yesterday asking if he would like next weeks bank holiday or the jubilee one, but he said no.

"You can take a horse to water but you cant make it drink" !!!

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29 Apr 12 #327153 by mightyredmen
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I suppose it depends on what sort of job your ex has.

My ex expects me to have my girls for half of all school holidays but I''m in job which that its not always possible. I am limited to only 10 days off from July to end of September and the 6 week break is always over subscribed. This year is worse as we are banned any leave during the Olympic and para olympic periods. My ex wont make allowances for this and still demand i have 3 weeks off.

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29 Apr 12 #327154 by caring soul
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Yes but in 4 weeks holiday my ex should be able to spare one week for his kids.

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29 Apr 12 #327168 by Shezi
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I don''t doubt the truth of what you''re saying caring soul, but the part of that sentence you are going to struggle with over the years is the word ''should''.

Imagine if you were still together, how would you get breaks from the children? We learn to accept that we have to share our children once separated, for me the positive of having to let my children go off to dad''s was that I eventually realised that gave me some ''me time''. Honestly? I would have preferred to have my children but that''s me.

Once my ex moved 300 miles away, his ''every weekend contact'' became ''once a month contact'', sometimes less.

I guess what I''m saying is that we have to work with what we''ve got. When we have children, we know we''re going to be needed for about 20 years (!) and we adjust to that. Divorce brings new challenges and new opportunities to the mix. But you will never get your ex to do what you think is the right thing. Ex will always do what s/he thinks is the right thing. Just as you do.

Of course, I can afford to say this... my children are now nearly 30 and I watch my daughter struggle to get her ''me time'' with her 3 children aged 0 - 5yrs :D

That''s parenting.

Shezi

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29 Apr 12 #327170 by mumtoboys
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popoliv wrote:

I suppose it depends on what sort of job your ex has.

My ex expects me to have my girls for half of all school holidays but I''m in job which that its not always possible. I am limited to only 10 days off from July to end of September and the 6 week break is always over subscribed. This year is worse as we are banned any leave during the Olympic and para olympic periods. My ex wont make allowances for this and still demand i have 3 weeks off.

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so is your ex in a position to have the children for all the school holidays?

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