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Objecting to child''s holiday

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03 May 12 #328275 by Lostboy67
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Hi,
I think the concern I would have is that your child won''t be going with a parent (either you or your ex).
Now while you could apply for a PSO, which you may or may not get how do you think your ex will present this to your daughter. ''Daddy is stopping you going on holiday so you are safe'' or ''Daddy is stopping you going cos he is a sh!t''

Unfortunatly its a situation where you need to pick your battles.

LB

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03 May 12 #328278 by Mitchum
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The other parents are taking on a massive responsibilty taking another teenager on holiday. I agree with lostboy, it would be different if your wife was going too. If you''re uncomfortable with the arrangements you have to follow your gut instinct.

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03 May 12 #328280 by sillywoman
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somuch2know2 is already estranged from his children and i think trying to prevent his daughter from going on holiday when mum thinks it is okay will only further estrange the girl from dad.

My youngest daughter is estranged from her dad (his choice) and I can guarantee I will NOT be asking his permission to take her on holiday!

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04 May 12 #328309 by somuch2know2
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I dont think stopping her is the right thing to do but at the same time I am really uncomfortable with the whole situation- and the fact my wife thinks she can just make these decisions on her own without any imput from me.

I also know if anything happens it will be my fault. "well if you hadnt left we would have gone one holiday together and this wouldnt have happened." I can hear it now...

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04 May 12 #328312 by sillywoman
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So perhaps text your daughter and explain the situation, and your thoughts and feelings, and perhaps ask her to keep in touch with you when she is away.

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04 May 12 #328316 by mumtoboys
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unfortunately, there are a lot of people out there able to twist everything around to suit their needs, rather than understand where they fit in their particular life jigsaw.

It has taken me along time to learn how to do it (or to be able to do it), but if my ex now comes out with ''but you made it happen'' kind of comments, I challenge it. They don''t like the challenge because deep down, when alone with their thoughts, they know exactly who''s to blame. No need to be confrontational or angry...just challenging!

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04 May 12 #328318 by somuch2know2
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Im not going to say ''you cant go'' as I think that will do far more damage than not. But I need to use this as an opportunity to make my wife understand I am not just her cash cow, and that I have a rightful interest in our children''s lives.

She is speaking to me at the moment... its weird. I dont know if its sympathy over my arm or she is fattening me up for the slaughter.

Still nothing back on my offer
serving her with our first Directions court case on Saturday (after I drop the kids off!!!)

Wish me luck

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