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At what age can you throw kids out

  • James53
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06 May 12 #328806 by James53
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OK not my kids. 15 year old son said his 17 year old g/f has been thrown out of the house by her mum (for the second time).He wants to know if she can stay with us.
I have said no, don''t have the space, concerned about the legal implications of this and want to know why her grand parents and g/fs are first to contact.
If he friends aren''t prepared to help then I have alarm bells ringing.
Can parents throw a 17 year old out on the streets?

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06 May 12 #328812 by gotmysmile
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Yes they can.

She can go to the councils homelessness officer and they will house her, although possibly in a hostel - not somewhere I would want my 17year old daughter. If she is still in school, she may been taken into foster care.

It happened to me and tbh I went to my boyfriend parents also, mainly because I thought they would take me in. My grandparents didn''t live locally and friends parents would have been my next choice.

Not a nice situation for her :(

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06 May 12 #328813 by sexysadie
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Better your sofa than on the streets. I would take her in, if only temporarily until something better can be sorted out. She will need support, wherever she ends up.

Best wishes,

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06 May 12 #328816 by Lostboy67
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Do you know why (or if) she really has been thrown out? There may be a reason why she has been thrown out, can''t think of one rigth now. I would try to speak to the g/fs mother if nothing else to reassure her that her daughter isn''t sleeping rough.


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06 May 12 #328825 by rasher
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I would have to advise differently - taking in a 17 yr old female who is apparently the girl friend of your 15 yr old son, would be a risky situation for you. At 17 she falls sadly between two services - social care and housing. There was a ruling known as the ''Southwark Judgement'' which indicates she should get help from SS but in practice it can be a different thing. What is certainly the case is that if she has a sofa to sleep on she will be even less likely to get help. Support her to go to the right service, thats the best thing you can do for her as once she hits 18 she will get even less help.

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07 May 12 #328885 by Shezi
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I would agree with Rasher in this. As a head of year in a high school, I work with situations like this often - it''s a can of worms. On the one hand, it''s tempting to be the ''good samaritan'', no one wants to see a 17 yr old in crisis. However, she isn''t your priority in this - your 15 yr old son is. There are many ways to support without housing and, as Rasher pointed out, accommodating her could well hinder any housing support she may be entitled to.


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