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Ex dis''s my son

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26 May 12 #333051 by Bobbinalong
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Absolutely livid after picking the kids up again last night, ex continues to try to discuss stuff in front of the kids, I refuse. However passes me a piece of paper to read later.
It''s an appointment my son had for a speech therapist a month ago, I knew nothing of it.
It was partly done through the school.
The letter lays out what was said and it''s all about mum says this mum says that.
What about dad?
My son does have a slight stammer he is 5 he sometimes thinks about a word before he says it, that''s all, probably normal for his age.
But, he doesn''t really suffer with it when he has been with me.
At mums house my daughter is top dog, she is allowed to talk over him and they mock him if he does want to watch what they watch on tv, ie. they once put a Harry potter film on,, he didn''t want to see and they mocked him saying we better put cbeebies on!

I am annoyed about the fact once again I wasn''t asked about this, all my ex wanted to discuss on the doorstep was once again that I shouldn''t have a party for my daughter as I had one last year and it''s not fair!!

I intend seeing the head Monday to express my disappointment of not being informed I also intend contacting the speech therapist as this is being made out to be a problem of my sons, it is a problem of the family.

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26 May 12 #333106 by rugby333
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A word to the wise: it sounds like you have decent contact with your children. Probably best not to start calling her motherhood in to question.

Remember it always takes a little time for everything to readapt post divorce and nobody is perfect, but your situation is not bad in relation to many!

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26 May 12 #333118 by sillywoman
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You are a g8 dad - blow your own trumpet!

I asked my ex if he would like to be informed re parents days, school reports etc. He said he would sort it himself.

He has done nothing of the sort, which saddens me, but the kids not bothered anymore.

My girls all had a bit of a stammer when they were little - all ignored and all gone now!

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28 May 12 #333571 by Bobbinalong
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Have given this a lot of thought and observat of my son over the weekend, he is absolutely fine as far as I can see, whilst with me.
Maybe my daughter finds it difficult as they are treated equal and get treated the same.
Did notice once or twice daughter is a bit ott with being horrible to him and ridiculing him, again all copied from her mother.
Anyhow, I did see the headmaster today, got a good response from him, made it very firm, he did say that it should be my ex that gives me info, I agreed but stated she doesnt, never has, and that anything which involves the school I need to know from them.
I also contacted the therapist they are to ring me when back in the office.

What saddens me about this, and I see it a lot on wiki is, one persons inability to communicate with the other, this is about control, excluding the other parent, as, they dont matter anymore.
I personally think that, the only way realistically out of this is to make all the organisations who might ever deal with the kids, from docs to swimming pools, is when one parent involves their kids in any discussion or diagnosis or whatever that one of the first things asked is, does the other parent know, if not why not especially if separated or divorced.

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28 May 12 #333573 by raybird
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i dont understand your sons school, my sons father went into his school, told them he wants to be informed about everything, not that i have ever witheld any information, he just thought it would be easier, and they have fully cooperated,

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28 May 12 #333575 by Deedum
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I am surprised the head teacher said it should be your ex giving you the information. I would have thought if your child is referred for additional support at school both parents (if they have separate addresses) should be informed of this, have a chance to attend any meetings involved and both be written to regarding the outcome.

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28 May 12 #333580 by Bobbinalong
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your right deedum, funny thing is my ex works there 2 mornings, volantary I suspect, trying to get a job, I dont think this would show her in the best light!

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