Hi Jules,
My daughter is 27 yrs old and more important to me than anything else in the world, that said, she can be very judgemental against me when it comes to financial matters involving her father.
Mr exh had a long affair with a woman he works with and now lives with her, my daughter told me of the affair as she had seen them together. We have been divorced since 2005 and during that time my ex has rewritten history and told my daughter many lies about the financial settlement.
I tried to show my daughter the order as she started accusing me of taking her father to the cleaners and him not having enough to live on!, she refused to read the order or listen to me. My daughter refuses to acknowledge the OW, has never visited their home but sees her father on neutral ground.
I found it very difficult and often got distressed by her lack of support so understand your feelings. Eventually I realised I was making myself ill with it so made a pact with myself never to discuss it and count to 10 before responding to any of her comments.
Life improved beyond measure, we are exceptionally close and it has not been easy but worth it. My daughter is about to graduate with a degree in medicine, I have been means tested and supported her both emotionally through-out. Her father, who earns in excess of £200K a year has contributed nothing. I am medically retired, have a mortgage of £86K and pension of £16K..... but then he is broke
and stopped paying SM ( another story)
My advice would be to start limiting the amount of information you give your daughter about your proceedings, in time she will support you with-out the questions.
I feel its important not to put my daughter off marriage but also vital that her childhood memories are cherished. I am now able to chat and laugh with her about the happy times and memories of my 35yr marriage, I never criticize him in any way to her but save that for my closest female friend.
Things will get better, don''t feel guilty about your emotions and PM me if you want to ask anything.
Best wishes & take good care of yourself, big hug x