I have a few urgent questions about my stbx rights over details of his teenagers schooling etc.
We have been through several hearings for an occupation order which was finally consented to by stbx and granted with an order that he stay away from
FMH. There were no orders gained regarding protection or residence. We have been through a final financial hearing and after that I have been awarded a small amount of money from the sale of FMH to buy property for myself and the girls. The lack of money is forcing a move a little away from our current area and meaning it is necessary for the girls to change schools. I have made enquiries with a new school and have secured places for the two younger girls. The situation with stbx and my girls is that they haven''t had any contact with him since we moved out of the FMH to live in a refuge in March 2011 other than incidents where he confronted the girls and one of them lashed out at him to defend herself resulting in him reporting her to the police. There is a long history of abusive controlling behaviour in the family and my children have stated that they wish to have no contact with their father at all in future. They have told their father this and asked him to leave them alone. They do not want their father to know where we will live in future or make any contact.
Stbx has contacted the girls school in the last seven days (has made no contact with the school at any point over the period since the girls asked him to leave the house in May 2010) since the girls sent him a final letter asking him to leave them alone forever. The school called me today to let me know that he was contacting them and also to check whether there was a protective order in place. I had to advise that there is no order and the school feel that they will have to advise that the girls will not be attending the school from September, but are worried that stbx is not actually interested in the children or their education but is simply trying to obtain an address or location. They are currently not replying to the e mail but feel that they will be legally bound to give him the information, despite the fact that the girls want to be allowed to stay away from him. My youngest daughter is 13 and knows her own mind and has made a rational decision on her future, but I am now worried that stbx can ride roughshod over our desires and threaten us all in future. I have tried to contact my solicitor today for advice but she was off sick and I am not sure that she will be in tomorrow.
My children, albeit the eldest is 20 years old, want to move away and cut all contact with their father who has shown no interest in the girls at all other than to cause me upset and difficulty during the process of the divorce. Should I approach the courts obtain to a protection order of some sort or instigate some other child hearings even that the girls have been and continue to live happily with me and wish no contact.