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04 Sep 12 #353712 by Enuff Already
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How can I ask a simple question to my ex and get a response. So far she can (and does) ask me whatever she wants and I will always give her the courtesy of a reply. I very rarely ask her anything as I never get a reply (I guess she thinks if she ignores it, it doesn''t have to be addressed) well the kids are missing out as several times they have been invited on play dates/parties that overlap handover time. I ask if they can go and get ....... complete silence..... they have never not once been allowed to go to anything that overlaps handover, even when I suggest that she could pick them up... how can we move on. I am at the point where I just say sorry they can''t go, and it just makes it look like I always say no, I am worried the invites will stop for the kids as they will get a reputaion (by default) of not going to events. After so long you would think it would cool a bit with just basic communication, I mean just a yes/no would suffice as lots of parents want acceptences for numbers for parties don''t they, or am I just being a controlling arse!

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04 Sep 12 #353835 by MrsMathsisfun
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My partners ex wouldnt respond if my partner attempted to arrange the holiday contact, so he started to include the comment that if ex hadnt responded in x days then he would assume that the dates and times had been agreed. Suddenly she replies to every email!!

Maybe send her text saying if she doesnt reply you will assume she agrees and take the children back late that time.

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05 Sep 12 #353929 by Enuff Already
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Love it...

I was actually going to say something similar like as you haven''t responded I take it your happy for the kids to attend. See you at 6.30 ish....

Seriously though I just wish things like this could be handled maturely for the sake of the kids..

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05 Sep 12 #353932 by C. J.
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Great idea Mathis Fun - I''ll suggest that to my fiance as he has similar issues.

The thing is, the ex would actually deem that as being hostile towards her!

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05 Sep 12 #353941 by Enuff Already
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Do you get the bullying card, harassment card, intimidating card too then C.J.?

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05 Sep 12 #353942 by C. J.
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Well my fiance yes. In actual fact I''m heading to court with him this afternoon to support him as he has another hearing based on the ex alleging hostile & intimidating behaviour towards her etc.

He hasn''t spoken to her directly since May due to the allegations she keeps making and instead offered her the use of a contact diary so at least there is one channel of communication open between them...but wait for it...he''s now being hostile in the diary too!

Yawn...! :unsure:

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05 Sep 12 #353946 by Enuff Already
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I had thought time would be a great healer and the maturity level would rise, but alas that is not the case, I have to respond toot sweet when she asks for anything otherwise I am not putting the childrens interests first, and she can ignore any request of mine as it doesn''t count, or figure as important in any way shape or form. Humph!

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