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08 Sep 12 #354646 by Enuff Already
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It didn''t take long... All my texts, emails and requests go unanswered. Now I have had two from her in 30 minutes as I didn''t reply to the first ''and she knows I have read it as she has the read receipt''.

6 School clubs for 3 kids (2 on my days), me pay half.. er NO!

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08 Sep 12 #354667 by Chained
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May I ask what age are the kids, why do they need to attend two clubs each and if you made the decision for the clubs together?

As for the pattern of communication: typical.

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08 Sep 12 #354668 by fairylandtime
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Sticking my neck out here .... As from the other side, I get below CSA rate & now with new sch term and poor results have to fork out £60 per week for tutors .... Thinking omg where can I cut :(

Haveing said that wound not ask ex as he does pay CSA and not on his time, cos wish he would have more time with the kids.

Just skint & worried


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08 Sep 12 #354672 by soulruler
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Hard as if the after school clubs are because she is working then when finances are tough you have to go along with it, remembering that parenting is joint and that when the Op has limited access and could otherwize parent ofter school that it is not reasonable necessarily according to the terms of maintence and division of assets.

Life ain''t fair on noone unfortunately.

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08 Sep 12 #354698 by Felixstowe
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Sticking my neck out here......if 2 clubs are on your days/nights then pay for them. I wouldn''t expect my ex to pay for after school clubs if they are not his nights, the nights that are mine I pay for because the children are my responsibility so I make arrangements accordingly. If he helps towards costs then I am appreciative but I don''t expect it.

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09 Sep 12 #354706 by jslgb
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What are the activities and how do you feel about them?

My daughter currently does swimming, rainbows and is going to start the violin soon. From my point of view swimming is an invaluable skill, rainbows provides a wider social network as she is an only child for all intents and purposes and violin will provide her with a skill. My stbxh agrees with my opinion on all these activities but has never offered to help towards them and i havent asked. But then again he pays minimum CSA and doesnt contribute towards anything else.

I choose to enrol my daughter in these activities as i feel it benefits her on numerous levels and she enjoys doing them. I dont begrudge paying for that.

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09 Sep 12 #354712 by Bobbinalong
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your time is your time, if you want them to do something up to you, if ex whats them to go to clubs in her time thats her desicion, when things are not good, its that simple, if you can communicate its better, but for anyone holding out for this, is a matter of control and ''you will do with the kids what I say''

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