Just looking for some advice. My son is in year six it is time to apply for his secondary school. How and what information should I discuss with his dad.
He is very difficult to deal with and rarely has him over night. I offered him 20 nights over the holidays i asked him if it was ok with him any changes he wanted to make just let me no. He had him 10 nights and would let me no last minute so I could nt make plans.
Anyway I need to word the message I send to him correctly or I will end up with grief from now till well god knows when.
I wish I could commincate with him more regularly but he just sees this as a sign we will get back together!
Thanks for reading
I know just how you feel, iam in the same situation.
If iam honest i would tell him nothing unless he asks, its you that has to sort getting him there ect,so the decision lies with you and your son.
Your son will have his favorite choice,its him who needs to be happy.
Just put what school your son asks,when dad asks you can tell him the truth.
Hope this helps.xx
That is poor advice I''m afraid. Courts have clearly stated that schooling is a matter for both parents and to ignore this advice would be to open a can of worms, in my opinion.
All secondary schools have open evenings so perhaps the first steps would be to ask your ex if he would like to attend these with your son. If you are unable to be in the same building without arguing then perhaps you can split the evenings between you.
There have been no open evenings. My son has visited the local secondary school and has expressed a preference.
The application process starts tomorrow which I have just received a letter about. Feel quite under pressure.